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RobotGreenAlien2
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05 Oct 2011, 6:16 pm

A few years ago I discovered Aspergers and it explained so much of my life. I've had meltdowns that left lost in a foreign country. The texture of sand on a beach is torture. I'm just list some of the more empirical stuff. My point is I'm sure, I'm not a hypochondriac, I have never claimed to have anything medical before, I wont give you my life story but I am 100% sure.

The thing is Obviously I don't go around the internet just throwing the term around (except for this post) and I truly understand the frustration with DX aspies a lot (not all) of whom are hypochondriacs or looking for attention. But I don't want to be diagnosed, At this point in my life it can't make things any better and I have talked to people at diagnosed, one in particular had her career destroyed because a badly written policy lumped her in with psychopaths.

So my question is where do I stand, Can I not tell anyone? I've lived what I've lived. I've made great strides and I have sacrificed so so much to make them. Not telling the people anyone about such a big part of who I am and facture in what I've done, just seems ridiculous. So what do you think?



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05 Oct 2011, 7:00 pm

RobotGreenAlien2 wrote:
A few years ago I discovered Aspergers and it explained so much of my life. I've had meltdowns that left lost in a foreign country. The texture of sand on a beach is torture. I'm just list some of the more empirical stuff. My point is I'm sure, I'm not a hypochondriac, I have never claimed to have anything medical before, I wont give you my life story but I am 100% sure.

The thing is Obviously I don't go around the internet just throwing the term around (except for this post) and I truly understand the frustration with DX aspies a lot (not all) of whom are hypochondriacs or looking for attention. But I don't want to be diagnosed, At this point in my life it can't make things any better and I have talked to people at diagnosed, one in particular had her career destroyed because a badly written policy lumped her in with psychopaths.

So my question is where do I stand, Can I not tell anyone? I've lived what I've lived. I've made great strides and I have sacrificed so so much to make them. Not telling the people anyone about such a big part of who I am and facture in what I've done, just seems ridiculous. So what do you think?


I don't have a diagnosis, so I just say "I'm sure beyond a reasonable doubt that I have it". If that's good enough to put someone in jail, it's good enough to tell someone you want knowing that about you.

I actually went and came out on facebook using the phrase "It's a safe bet I have Asperger Syndrome".



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05 Oct 2011, 7:14 pm

Tell them anything you want. Just don't expect anyone to take you seriously, or treat you the same or better after you tell them.


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05 Oct 2011, 10:53 pm

When self-diagnosed I used the phrase "I identify with this, but haven't been diagnosed"



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05 Oct 2011, 11:45 pm

Only get a diagnosis for your own personal reasons. Never let anyone tell you you should get a diagnosis if you dont want to.


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20 Oct 2011, 6:31 pm

Thanks, that was very helpfull.



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20 Oct 2011, 11:49 pm

You can say "I suspect I may have Asperger's" or "I probably have Asperger's" "I think I have Asperger's."



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20 Oct 2011, 11:55 pm

RobotGreenAlien2 wrote:
... So my question is where do I stand, Can I not tell anyone? I've lived what I've lived. I've made great strides and I have sacrificed so so much to make them. Not telling the people anyone about such a big part of who I am and facture in what I've done, just seems ridiculous. So what do you think?

I think you should seek confirmation from a trained and licensed mental-health professional.

Otherwise, the most truthful statement you can make is, "I think I may have Asperger's Syndrome, due to my perception of the correlation between the symptoms listed in the DSM, and my perceptions of my own symptoms."

To avoid coming off as a word snob, just say, "I think I may have a form of High-Function Autism" and leave it at that.

Other syndromes and disorders can mask or mimic the symptoms of AS, especially to the person making the self-diagnosis.

Don't let any poseurs fool you into thinking otherwise; Their beliefs prove nothing.


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