Why Be Glum?

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I really am having a crisis of conscience right now. I don't even know for sure if my diagnosis of having Asperger's syndrome was accurate. Maybe I have heaped so many layers upon layers of attempts to achieve normality over the weird behaviors I knew were weird before I ever heard the name Asperger's that I am in denial, though. Anyway, Asperger's syndrome doesn't suck.

After all, we have...
Aspergonautics!

I am very thankful Aspergonautics was invented. It reminds me of what we can accomplish together to help each other. Aspergonautics isn't the only thing, though...

Analysis

At this, we kick so much proverbial donkey behind. And I can't say we're not...

Independent

We're too socially incompetent to be anything but! I'm glad I'm independent. Why, just yesterday, I did the most innocuous thing—move someone's crap out of a shower stall that, as far as I knew, could have been forgotten in there for hours. I set the stuff on the ledge of the changing area of the bathroom, but it fell over, and I didn't want to pick it up because I didn't want to touch his wash cloth, and he'd probably want to know his wash cloth was on the floor anyway. I just took a shower, and he later came in pissed off, very belligerent, and shouting all manner of obscenities and threats. I later came out and tried to calmly explain the situation to him. It was so much fun seeing this guy out of control over such a trifle. He can't retain some independence from the passions of the moment, and the effects are hilarious!

Some people have so many bad experiances, that being happy is a little out of the question until they start building happy experiances. Regardless of whether they have aspergers, it is comforting to view aspergers as a debilitating condition, as a scape goat.

Very smug aren't you? Like tying cans on the tails of dogs and watching them run around screeching while you're laughing at their misery...

Sorry you're having a bad time right now, Neant. But cruelty to others isn't necessary.

See, the problem is you're finding his temporary unhappiness "entertaining". Which goes back to my little analogy of tying cans on dogs. Having "fun" with people, like on WP, when they don't think it's funny. And then you resolve that that's their problem. Because they are there for your entertainment and they just need to "lighten up".

You're not using your Aspergers as an excuse but you are using your "a guy's gotta have some fun in life" excuse.

I'm sure the guy in the bathroom probably overreacted. Most people do. But a little empathy? Or even the knowledge that you're supposed to feel at least guilty for knocking the stuff off? You did instigate it, not that it was purposeful. But did you apologize without him attacking you first?

The only thing is you spoute so many philosophies and talk about your empathy and kindness while you do things like this. I wish you would match your actions with your philosophies or at least vice versa. Otherwise, it sounds very hypocritical. Whether or not you care.

Okay, obviously this is absolutely none of my business, and i have no idea who you two're talking about, but my curiosity has overwhelmed me, who are you talking about?

One thing I've learned in dealing with people in college is that while it can be entertaining to piss people off, in the long run you're just f*****g yourself. Even if he doesn't do anything to you directly, he's going to tell all of his (and your) neighbors about how you were a jerk to him, and every time from now on that you see him you'll have a unpleasant, awkward situation to deal with. There have been plenty of instances where people have overreacted or freaked out at me when I'm not even at fault, but I've apologized for it anyway just to keep the peace.

It's funny that you bring this up because, though I'm ashamed to admit it, can be entertained by others' misfortune. I definitely have trouble feeling empathy for others at all. But I've realized that if you're nice to other people, they tend to be nice to you. You know the old saying- what goes around, comes around.

When other people told me this at first, I brushed it off and refused to believe it. But when you actually try it, it really works.

Even though he sounds like a bit of a hothead (and not knowing also what's gone on between you two prior to that), you should still feel sorry. Accident or not.

If I accidentally kill someone, I should still feel sorry and regret it. Regreting an action doesn't have much to do with whether it was intentional or not.

Even though I can understand that your intention to leave it on the floor was so he could know it was dirty, and not to try and fool him. But I doubt he saw it that way. He no doubt thought you knocked it over and didn't even care enough to pick the stuff back up. That's the more likely interpretation given his outburst.

He was in the shower at the time I take it? I assume that would have made informing him of what happened so as to let him know it was an accident either a bit awkward or difficult?

Most people might be a little frustrated with what happened, but if you can circumvent their anger with a seemingly-sincere apology, you can avoid a lot of unpleasant interactions. Plus, you can avoid people holding a grudge and can stay clear of future difficulties.

Just cuz he's gone now doesn't mean you won't see him again.

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