KateShroud wrote:
In some ways we are more impressionable than others, because we miss hidden meanings. We may seem naive and gullible.
It happened to me several times when I was witnessing or participating in a conversation taking place between a group of people being on friendly terms with each other and somebody from the "outside" - not being that close to them - that when the conversation ended and that person left, all the people from the group started to grumble at that person's rude behaviour, malicious remarks or putting up his nose presented while talking to them then. While not only usually didn't I notice anything described by them but even later, while analysing some statements delivered by our supposedly nasty interlocutor, I had problems with perceiving them in a different light than innocent and not containing any hidden meaning remarks.
Also many times I found myself in a situation of this kind that somebody was informing me about his/her dislike of, let's know those people under the common name X, which according to my interlocutor was caused by X's negative features of personality: arrogance, malice, unfairness, shallow mindness and opposite sex as the only interest. It wasn't until I was informed about those bad qualities of X when I was able to notice them indeed (sometimes it took me even few years to realize that X's behaviour really was in some respect inapropriate).
Before I heard about AS and got knowledge of it, I always used to put it down to the fact of having less experience in having conversations than the normal or I simply thought those people who were so eager to criticise others's behaviour knew those "others" much better than I and knew the negative side of their personality so they were trying to look only for bad things in their behaviour.
18 Jul 2008, 4:02 pm
