Are you always noticed?

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Wherever I go, unless I hide, I am noticed. Other people aren't noticed usually, I think.

People focus entirely on me, even if there are other people. Then they often take a great dislike because they think I'm super strange and disgusting for being strange. Or they love me. Women and men notice me.

I don't understand why I'm noticed so much. I asked a couple of times, but got told there's nothing out of the ordinary with how I look. I didn't get an answer out of the haters and bullies, they just said I was too ret*d and fun, which is practically no answer.

When I'm new somewhere and am just 1 person out of 10 new people, I am the one that everyone focusses on. The others are almost ignored. It's like I draw people in by having a huge neon sign above my head that says everyone must focus on me. People feel they must have a strong opinion on me - hate or love.

I don't understand that... I'm noticed wherever I go.

Is it due to the ASD? What about other autistic people?

I am often hard to notice I think, people often forget my name often calling me Steven (my brothers name), though once I start voiceing who I am and takeing control I can be a centre. I have very interesting views and that is what gets me noticed.

im feel im noticed alot also
dont know if its because im self concious or because i somehow stand out, maybe walking awkwardly or unconfidently, or maybe i actually look like god's gift to women

The funny thing is that I can go unnoticed too.

It's when people think in groups and social relationships.

Teachers have always thought of me as a disturbance, that does not belong in the group. So that they think about 'their students', they actually forget to notice me and don't notice whether I'm present or gone.
And when people think about who they know (as in, having a relationship with), they usually never name me.

Out of that context I am noticed.

I always tried to imagine that I'm not there and if someone would look into my direction, they'd see nobody occupying the space.

I never know if that works or not.

Yeah I guess people often feel I am a disturbance, it is like I am not even there, I find myself haveing to then try and make sure that things go properly. The problem is that I can not be relide on but I need to make sure things go on track.

Number one thing people ask me at my old neighborhood-"How's you're brother?" Sometimes without even asking me, or after rushing through pleasantries...

I work hard at not being noticed... Eye contact is a lot of it. If you look at people in the eye too much, they'll notice you. If you navigate with your focus to a spot about 8 feet in front of you, and keep track of people with your peripheral vision, you get noticed less.

In elevators, I move backwards a step, and everyone breezes past me. Looking focused on something, and walking quickly seem to work as well.

am dont know how often am noticed as am dont notice others,but if am ever sat or lying on the pavement,rocking,in MD etc even with staff there,they will come,and ask staff if want help,if want police and ambulance etc,when am dont need help its offered,the neighbours are always offering help when they see am out [usually because am lying down on the concrete or am paralised from the waist down,but they should know am not lying dead due to the big fat tabby cat/GFB on chest dribbling and dancing and making am having to keep shifting him off kidney area],the local police and community police always stop to ask how am doing as well.
usually the times am notice am being noticed is when am hear name being mentioned and associated with something.
am do not understand how am get this much,when have heard of people being left lying dead and not getting notice.

^^^Cool avatar!

I hate being noticed. As a kid being noticed meant being taunted, humiliated, or bullied. As an adult, I have worked hard to be invisible or at most, not to stand out in a crowd.

Do you guys ever get noticed for making the effort to be "invisible"? My first girlfriend thought I was "different," because I was "observing" and not speaking with anyone. We met at a "Bring your kid to work" day, and the lobby was a chatterbox of 13-14 year olds, me an her were the only ones not talking to anyone, and she noticed it. She came over to talk to me, and well things moved along quite nicely. Kinda cool how that worked out, wish it woulda lasted.

I'm generally not noticed, and that's without doing anything to deliberately not be noticed. I guess that if I talked a bit more, or had more of a sense of humour, I would be noticed more.

Well when I am trying to hide to get out of doing jobs/chores if I do it too obvious I will get noticed so I try to creat a partial sort of hideing by not hideing at all.

Haha, smart. Friend of mine gave me a bit of advice when I was thinking about the military, said don't stand in the back, and don't stand in the front, stand in the middle, as the ones in the back are obviously hiding, and the ones in the front are trying too hard. Making one's self inconspicuous has to involve hiding the fact.

I find the best way not to get noticed is to not walk around with a pissed off look on my face.