Advice Please? Not sure whats wrong with me??!

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Im in my mid-teens now and I'm so confused...about well myself? I have not been diagnosed with Aspergers, but recentley have being researching it and have found I can relate and seem to have a lot of the symptoms of Aspergers. I'm beginning to wonder if I have a Mild Aspergers...
For example people with Aspergers have talked about obsession, long-term and short-term, I go through phases with my obsessions to the point I won't leave the house to if I don't have too just so I can sit and read/watch whatever my paticular interest is. I find myself wishing I knew the characters and was apart of their world. I get a feeling of excitement and a 'rush' when I know I'm going to do something related to it, I spend all day thinking about it, randomly googling things about my interest re-reading, re-watching then suddenly it may stop for a few days until I may get a new obsession and the whole process repeats, I find myself saying quotes from them, imagining the characters are with me, wondering how they'd react imagining them reacting, its usually the last thing I think of before I sleep, I do feel sad when I realise the characters etc. are fictional sometimes even frustrated as I find the world boring/bland compared to theirs.
Also I am very sensitive...such as I might not cry as much as people or I would expect I would, when something big happens like losing a family memeber (I lost a parent last year and cried but not much...not even at the funeral) but when something small goes wrong or not how I planned, I can get very upset and cry, even in public which is highly embarrassing, I can get very annoyed with something really small mayhaps do something ruthless, (usually when im on my own).
I find social situations sometimes awkward, I find it difficult talking to people I have nothing in common with, I cannot make small-talk without myself feeling really awkward and flustered, sometimes I feel under pressure to maintain a conversation and worry about what i'm going to say next.
I only really talk a lot with close friends I find it hard to understand other girls and relate more to boys. Sometimes while talking I do find myself becoming anxious about how to look at someone, left eye right eye? Up or down?
I never get lonely, infact I prefer being alone, and hate it when people drop plans on me last minute I get the feeling they have spoiled my day I'd so thoughtfully planned out, sometimes when people tell me to do plans I wish I could just stay at home and do my thing.
I never ever have being interested in 'following' people such as fashion and social speech, I would always say I've felt as though I don't belong on this world and don't fit in, I find it hard to understand how other teenagers operate such as trying to be popular, trying to get lots of attention...sometimes I feel frustrated that i'm not like other teenagers and I'd rather spend time at home on a computer game then out in town shopping for clothes, worrying about following fashion...

I don't know whats wrong with me I guess I could go on forever about my life and explaining how I feel and for someone to understand, so when I read about Aspergers and related to some of the traits it got me thinking for days about the symptoms I could'nt stop researching it , maybe I have a mild case of Aspergers or maybe I'm just different to other people and just want something to explain my actions and thoughts instead of constantley wondering whats wrong with me.

Sorry for the long post everyone, I'd really appreciate if you took the time to read it, and would gladly recieve any advice, information you have to share no matter what it is, I'm just so lost and confused about myself I thought it was time I told someone to get advice before I tell anyone I know.

If Aspergers makes sense to you then you could talk to your doctor about a referral

If you're not sure, or you don't want to bother with diagnosis, then keep talking and reading - AS causes lots of problems and is a real disability for many people; it is never mild, but the impact on your life can be fairly low level or enormous depending on how it works for you - no two people on the spectrum are the same or affected in the same way - however it can also bring strengths and enjoyment and the more you learn about yourself the more likely you are to find that side of life on the spectrum too.

A good book:

Aspergirls by Rudi Simone

Oh poor you, see that's the thing about aspergers- it is a spectrum disorder so you are very capable of having some symptoms but not them all! It's hard I know when you relate to some but not all- in fact you speak of an imagination and things that is very very like me!
The other thing about girls with aspergers is we are often undisguised because we have a subconscious need to fit in with the world and so learn how to behave and mask our symptoms or deal with them.
To me it sounds as if you are a fellow Aspie but you need to share your concerns with a parent you can show them a letter or email with your concerns and the symptoms if its easier, they can then organise for you to be tested.
Hope this helps you, feel free to PM me if you want someone to vent to

Getting lost in fantasy and obsessions sounds a lot like me growing up.........

i know im probably repeating my self, but i cant get over how much our situations apear to be the same from what i read from your post, you are definatly not alone, i dont get people my own age either, especially when it comes to people having crushes on people, do you find it strange. how can you have a crush on someone because of how they look, it makes no sense.

I'd say you definitely have a lot of traits, at least. But we can't diagnose you over the internet.

It sounds to me as though you definitely have Asperger's. if you feel it necessary, you should seek a diagnosis.

However, being on the Autism spectrum doesn't necessarily mean that there's something wrong with you. I it's helpful to develop a positive attitude to who you are, and to embrace it rather than thinking of yourself as being defective.

Hi,
I see alot of the traits you list in me, obsessions, over emotional about small stuff but not about the big stuff.... I would suggest you ask your GP for a referral, I did and am days away from getting a diagnosis whether it be yes or no..
I grew up not knowing about aspergers so you have an advantage there which is good.. I and many others of my age struggled through thinking it was something we had to overcome.. I am now slowly embracing who I am and feeling really proud of how I have coped and how far I have pushed myself..
We are all different so you choose your own path I guess, acceptance within yourself is the key !

Stu