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I'm a bit confused on this, any good articles on female aspies? Why is it hard to tell in females?

This is one of the best I've seen: http://www.freewebs.com/aspiefrommaine/index.htm

I guess we fake it better.

Women fake everything better than men!

One of the best articles I read while researching AS as a female myself.



http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles ... 00002.html

Thanks. Nice link.

I am so terrible at faking stuff

Actually, no. There are no good articles, if you're looking for one-stop-shopping, or a one-size-fits-all approach. They all have details I would argue with.
Other than stuff that I've written myself. I am a culture of One.

You might get some seemingly conflicting reports from Aspies around here, but one thing I'm sure of is that the NT "experts" who like to run their mouths are utterly clueless.

Never ask a local (Earthling) for directions.
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt72732.html

I can recommend a good book, "Congratulations it's Asperger Syndrome!" by Jen Birch, a woman who was diagnosed in her 40s.

I heard it's hard to tell in females because it's easier for aspie women to get men because more men are more open minded than women. Men will accept quirks in a woman than a woman would in a guy. I also read women are expected to be shy and men are supposed to approach the woman first like talking to them and asking them out. But women can do it too.

But this isn't true for all aspie women. There have been men interested in me but I would scare them off because I wouldn't give them eye contact or I didn't talk enough, and mistook my shyness for "not interested in you, go away." They basically read my body language wrong so I took it through the internet to meeting men.

Can some Aspie/HFA females be really chatty?

I talk a lot. I have been a big talker since I was six. I hogged up the conversations with my family because I didn't know anything about turn taking. I would say "Wait, I'm not done yet," when someone would start talking. I don't know why my parents let me do that. My only guess is, they were glad to see I was finally talking and they enjoyed hearing what I was saying and if they started to tell me to be quiet, I would have probably stopped talking again thinking they don't want me to talk.

They left it up to speech therapy to teach me about turn taking and staying on topic.

I haven't figured out all this acting stuff either. I'd rather be on the computer or somehow learning about something that interests me than faking who knows what. You're not the only woman like this.

They say that the lack of social reciprocation is no different to males with the disorder (Gillberg, Attwood), it's just that the all-encompassing interest (the repetitive behaviour), may present differently in some with the disorder.

To answer a question, anyone with an ASD can be really, really "chatty" (the lack of social reciprocation will still show); speaking too much or too little is how it goes.

Depends on your definition of chatty. There are both male and female Aspies that can talk for hours on end about themselves or there favorite subject. In other words you can't get them to shut up. But no they aren't really chatting with anyone meaning they don't know how to hold an appropriate conversation with another person.

I can be chatty.. and I present in an atypical way to the usual aspie. I just present as "weird" and people dont necessarily equate weird to autism. They tend to think I am just weird.