Your opnions before anything formal?

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So I've made an account to run my "story" past a few real lifers before I'm going to reach out to some diagnosis.

20, junior year of college, male.

I'll jump right into why I think I have it and why I think I might not.

I believe I have it because of my lack of close contacts that I have made in school. Or maybe the few because I do have a few.
Sure I guess you could said that I have friends in school but I only have a few phone numbers. I usually eat my meals at college by myself and I don't really spend that much time with others at social gatherings. I guess you could say that I'm shy, but in the right situation I'm not. In a structured place like work or the class room my shyness in the wilderness disappears.

Maybe my problems are because I've never had to work for friendships before. With all the sports in elementary schools and my more outgoing twin brother doing the legwork I always had a few friends/never sat alone. It could be self esteem as in "if I don't believe I can add anything to the preceedings or I doubt they will like me so on and so forth."

Why I think I might not have it is my job.

Example: I work at a front desk at my college. I check every student's id's as they enter the dorm. I have not problem that I can tell with answering their questions, understanding them, being understood my self, telling when someone is kidding or angry or tired or hurried or anything like that. I even find it easy to make people laugh (sometimes).

What do you think? I've been through the whole thing with social aniexty (created so they can medicate shyness) and depression and what not (sometimes because of my lonliness/feelings of self worth I've hurt myself) and still, my life is my life. I've turned to this as an answer but I'm not sure. Ugh, this is so frustrating.

Oh and I've never dated. Too shy. If that is helpful at all.

No thoughts?

I am very sociable (well that is what people are always telling me!) I can joke with people, I like to entertain people. People see me as a very relax person. I am very good at selling stuff, talk about something i like.. (but Aspie are like that when they are passionnate about something)

But as the same time, i prefer being on my own. I will see my friend once a month (or every two months). When i meet people, i have to prepare myself of what is going to happen, what we are going to talk about ... I hate being invited if there are people i dont know. etc...


Having AS, doesnt mean you have to have ALL the AS traits!!
Some will be more pronunce that others

Are you formally diagnoised?

I think everyone needs some alone time but for me too much is too much. I like at least 5 hours of together time with people. It really makes me feel a lot better.

As seems like a slippery thing. The big thing I'm running into right now is I have no obessions. I just don't. Sure I reasearch stuff like my hobbies but for a reason. Like to find a new game I reasearch so I don't waste money on a crappy game.

No i am not formally diagnosed.
A friend of mine was talking about her son who is diagnosed, and i thought "maybe it is what my brother is!!) SO i started to look around about AS. I read the book "geek freak and asperger syndrome" and it was exactly like the book was about me. And i started to think about me. I found a letter my mum wrote to my dad when i was 10. And her discription of me was surprising. I never notice the way i was when i was ten, but now, i realise that i am an aspie ( i can give you a long list of the traits i've got!)

Now i am relieved to understand why i am the way i am. I didnt make sense before. Now it is like of my life has been explained to me.

do those test:
http://aq.server8.org/
http://www.rdos.net/eng/ (on the left clik on aspie quizz)
(the second one is long but better i think)

maybe it can give you an idea.

I personnaly found draining to meet people, i prefer to meet them for a long day than often. But i can talk to them on the phone!

Tomamil, the funny thing, is before knowing about AS. All the traits i have i could give you a reason. I hate being touch by surprise, or lightly for example. I thought it was because i didnt have many hugs when i was young.. But now it doesnt make any sense!
I have OCD (mostly about food) i thought it was because i was forcefed (but my mum explained to me, that i was very fussy and i could eat only 3 types of food. THe funny thing is when i am pregnant i only eat "white food" (potatoe, rice, pasta, milk, cream...))

ETC... the list is long.. So i could find a reason for each trait.. but now, it is easy, because all this traits are just AS traits! Much easier to tell people i have AS instead of giving an explanation for each "weird" thing i do!

[jkm2> do the rdos test. You will have a cleared explanation... it is good test

did it here is what i got

Your Aspie score: 27 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 166 of 200
You are very likely neurotypical

some of those questions bundled too many spefic things together but it was an all right test. I could tell which questions where trying to weed out people with adhd (like the jumping overthing s question, jumping over things is fun. after all adhd as kid....)

Ok, then you are unlikely to be an aspie.

good for you

You don't sound especially aspie to me... just shy. I'm not a professional of course. But there are too many things missing in my opinion. Almost every aspie has a history of obsessive interests. If I look back at my whole life I can think of a year and remember what the obsession was then. So 1987 was owls, 1993 was The Beatles, etc. Not every aspie has every aspie trait, but I'd expect you to have at least some of the following: long history of people thinking you're rude when you don't mean to be/obsessive interests/sensory issues/repetitive or ritualistic behaviours/need for routines/a lifelong difficulty in making friends/serious problems in understanding nonverbal communication. You said that you've always been able to make friends until quite recently, but recently you've found yourself in a social rut. That suggests to me that you're neurotypical but just having a hard time with socialising at the moment. Depression can also make socialising hard and it sounds like you're quite low. By all means hang around on WP, though, and see how you get along with the people here.