Moving out/escape

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although have known since last november as they said am was too high complex needs for this place,found out today am being moved out soon,and it's all thanks to the bosses at national autistic society.

for those that dont know,Trafford council have kept moving am around to completely unsuitable residential homes with residents who like nothing better than attacking am with noise on full volume,[one of them actually liked to follow am around and scream so she could watch the meltdowns],and staff who both verbally and physically attack am,as well as treat am like a burden on everyone,and left am neglected whilst they were only a room away [several times was left face down in concrete down side of bed after head banging a wall and had gone to toilet on self].

they never did anything about it in the last two homes until those residents and one staff ended up injured in meltdowns,yet the council allowed them to put am through a living hell,and a lot worse.
anyways,the NAS had been trying to force the council to get sound proofing and triple glazing windows installed here because they've been breaking the DDA by not doing it,but they've given the old 'there's not the funding' line for it.

so the NAS have managed to do something would not think possible given the funding crap,they have forced the council to reopen the institution am used to live at [part of it still is open for respite],and they are letting am have a whole building to self-because they had closed it all down so there's no one else moving in,it's going to be the same building lived in before,and the same room,they've put in the same laminate flooring and wall colour am always have in,and they are currently sorting out all the other stuff,like putting tv in,kitchen stuff,lounge stuff,gardens stuff etc.

they think am might be living there around a year,the NAS had found a rare perfect permenant residential for am with other autie LDers outside this borough but Trafford refused to fund it because it wasnt here.
will be keeping the best day and waking night staff am had from here,and also getting staff who used to work with am at the other homes and werent complete b...........ds.
sky+ and sky ADSL is definitely getting fitted,am getting adult swings put in the garden [the carseat type that cannot fall off of] as have been waiting to do this for over a year now but because of the moving about couldnt do it.
the best thing is it's only down the road from here so can still go and see GFB though would like to take him,one of the NAS support staff thinks am might be able to get a maine coon at new home as there will be no other residents.

if it wasnt for the NAS and Max [social worker] none of this would be happening,they're great.
am still cant believe am going to be getting out of this hell,finally..




Am do know of quite a few others in similar situations on WP [needing to move somewhere else due to problems at home] and would say keep the strength dont let it die and will get there in the end.
try and get an advocate if possible,or social worker,any sort of support to help get moved out,whether it's into own place or residential/supported.

Congratulations, seriously, this sounds like excellent news for you. And Maine coons are great!

I'm seriously happy for you, KoR! You rock...( ).
We all need our peace and quiet, and those little things that make us our cool and unique selves. KoR rules!

I'm happy for you as well. I know you've been having a hard time. Congrats. Also, I love swings.

God bless you, KingdomOfRats. You are such a wonderful person; you deserve only the best things in life.

Very pleased to hear the news of your move. Take care and God bless.

Thanks for answering patternist,YowlingCat,KateShroud,IdahoRose and JetLag!

thanks patternist,
am agree they are the best,no other cat can buff wooden flooring like them.

thanks YowlingCat,
peace and quiet.......did not know that existed...the only time have ever experienced close to it was in Norwich countryside,could still hear the main motorways and those drivers who use it for racing with their windows down and music up loud.

thanks KateShroud,
swings are great! and not just for little children like ignorant assume.
the best swings around to try [if in uk] are in Mencaps' centres,almost impossible to fall off them.

thanks IdahoRose,
am feel lucky with the few things am have/do now,as it took a lot to get here!

thanks JetLag!


Have found out a bit more since that meeting,they have said they are taking action against the staff who allowed am to be sexually abused by another resident in front of them a few years back at the institution,and also against the managers for blaming the abuse on am being autistic-all because the NAS has got involved and made it public,the NAS wanted to know if anything else bad had gone on,am remembered one bad time,and told them that the same staff had allowed a more severe autie [profound,with prof. MR,he has constant but non free speech] to be bullied by another resident [the same one who sexually abused am] am would see a hand [the abusers hand,as it was his voice] swing at Sean,it was definitely hard hits as the noise was very sharp and loud,Sean had done nothing wrong at all and he would never hit or abuse anyone.

he would go to staff and say 'ouch' whilst slapping his head,to mean he's been hit,but staff always ignored him,the NAS are following up what happened with him as well.
it's good this has happened,as until recently am was forced to be around the same staff who did all this,but they were moved to other residentials because am 'kicked off' around them often,if the NAS had not started getting involved they'd still be here.

am have told them the sexual abuse means nothing to am as am have no awareness of it,but they said they want to make sure it is not going on against any other residents as well,they don't think it will get far with the police as there isn't any proof,but is worth trying.

I'm really glad to hear that you're getting out of that place! I'm so sorry to hear that all those things happened to you and other residents. I hope that everything is straightened out for you soon and that you can move in as soon as it is ready.

Great news! You deserve to be in a place that you feel safe, and that things are comfortable for you. I hope that you get 3 Maine Coons if you want.

Thanks Ryn!
have just been told today by the home staff am being expected to move in there in two weeks,it's bad enough the managers do not bother coming to say this when they're in the same building,they only give two weeks.
am not being rushed into anything,and am definitely not moving in there if they have not got sky broadband working, it's the only form of communication am have with family and the only access to outside world.

am starting to visit there from wednesday onwards,to get routine there built up again,and am will get some photos of the place to post back here,it is a great place,great buildings,great land,and trees and quiet walks down bridle paths behind it.
it is the perfect type of home for autists who cannot live in community based [normal type] homes for whatever reason,yet in the UK,they have been closing all institutions down-those who run this country say all with LD/DD are able to live in community based residential or group homes,judging all as the same, without looking into the crap quality of life and/or danger for many they're causing by doing this.




Thanks Serenity!

am would like a pile of maine coons,that would be perfect.
dad says there's a problem with getting one,what to do with them at the weekend as am at their house from saturday morning till sunday eve/night-trafford have said because am the only resident there,they're only putting staff on during the times am there....so can cats be left inside [from saturday morning till saturday eve/night] if there are things like timed cat food dishes,litter trays,water bowls,cat tree,toys etc? or is that too long?
he has already said am not allowed to take the cat back with am at weekends,even though biscuit and sam get on great with new cats,and it would be a kitten,they would probably assume it was just a rug like they do with biscuit anyway.
he has allowed sister to take her cats with her loads of times and keep them in the large spare room with all of their things including their cat tree,can't see what is the difference.

That sounds marvelous! You have had to put up with a lot of crap, and you certainly deserve peace and quiet. Lots of Aspies and Auties suffer because of having to live in environments that they have no control over. Congratulations! And Maine Coons rule!

That's so great, Kingdom of Rats! It sounds like appropriate housing is so hard to find for auties, so I'm happy things are finally working out for you. I'm glad you're going to be able to get a cat as well- we all know how our furry little friends can keep us sane! Congratulations!

My cat stays inside that long if I let when I am home. Providing they have access to food, water and litter tray, I am sure a cat will be just fine left indoors for the period of time you describe, in fact I expect they'd be fine outdoors too.

It is very good that your situation is going to improve. I hope everything is ready for you to move in on time and that everything runs smoothly for you with the transition from where you currently live to your (soon to be) home. It is really good that you have lived in the building before. Good for you NAS and Mat!

Yes, I agree. I wouldn't have a second thought about leaving my cats for that length of time, as long as they have enough food and water. For my two kitties, I would leave them two bowls of food (they eat dry food) and two bowls of water, and that would be absolutely plenty. Their "burn" rate is a little less than one bowl of water a day and one bowl of food a day, so that is enough for a little more than two days.

Thanks hartzofspace!!
autists needing residential placement get more understanding off staff and thought about where best to be placed by LD team/social services if they throw things at others to get their own way, more than those who cause fractures on themself and a lot of other damage because of crippling-and very real sensory setoffs.
they assume,if they cant see it,hear it,feel it etc,then it doesnt exist-as if they are the only standard to base senses on.

am know many of the staff and social workers believe in religeon,am would like to know if they can believe in something they can only ever experience through words having never grew up during the bibles time,why is it so hard for them to understand the sensory needs of many autists when they are able to see the pain and torture they go through?

am not saying anything bad about religeon,but am want to know why its so easy to have such strong belief in one thing that can not be seen,but complete non understanding-and prejudice for another?


Yes definitely,no other cat is close to being as superior! they;ve got the fluff,the shape,and the crazyness that makes MC cats extra great.
what do think of Leila: http://www.catster.com/cats/762477 she is the best MC am have ever seen on there.



Thanks LostInSpace!
there are a lot of auties in the community residential homes here [even the most prof. aut],but the problem is when add high complex needs or severe challenging behavior-unless fit 'simple autism'-eg,no extra related needs that are affected by or affect others,are going to really struggle.

the staff struggle with self,because are not suitable for the home,and treat self like a burden on them and other residents,and self struggles because cannot cope with the setup or the treatment.
Am will be asking the NAS about this,it is not right that the only choice here is community residentials [which are squashed together in busy town areas],they may be able to start something about it if they see the same problem as well,though their own residentials in manchester are just as bad,they're mostly in northenden,very busy,squashed in with other houses,and of the ones am know of they're only for males anyway.

Thanks Pandd and LostInSpace!
that is great to hear.....very great!! will pass this on to dad on msn tomorrow.
even if the worst happened and managers said no not allowed cat,they will be too busy drinking coffee, and smoking cigarettes out the window to notice am sneaking them in like the first time around.

Many people have an idea that there is only one way to show pain, only one way to communicate, etc., and that if you aren't experiencing things in that way, you can't be experiencing them at all. It's like thinking that nobody else could sincerely believe in a religion you don't believe in.