you don't know what you got, till its gone, do you?

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like when something or someone is not there anymore. That feeling of "damn, I want that now, or I wish I could see them. Or that or they were great" Is it true? Do we really feel that strongly about them/that? Or is it just cause we know its gone. And at the actuall time when they or it was there, the way we were with them/that, was that our true feelings? And the after feeling, is that a lot to do with guilt? If you know what I mean

it's a corollary to "you can never go home anymore."

yeah

When something is gone, people have a tendency to remember the good and forget the bad. My ex was a total freak b***h, but I still miss the good times we had. I know what I had, and it wasn't that great, besides the wonderful intimate moments we shared together.

Selective thinking. Often over time what you think of something in the past it wasn't so great to begin with. I did a controlled "revisit" to a thing I done to excess at one time in my life and found that I had glorified some of what I had been currently thinking as the good sides to it, over time.

I have sometimes in the past made a mental note for the future me. Someone here made a great story about doing that not long ago, only in his case he made a full day of it and night. Living life to the fullest and making a good future him reference.

familiarity breeds contempt

how can I miss you if you don't go away?

It's natural to want more of something that made you feel good.

It's a paradox.

For me personally, a lot of those kinds of feelings stem from not liking change. Transitions are hard for me.

For example, I bought a house a little over a year ago. Almost everything about this house is better than my old one, yet I still feel sad when I think about my old one. Logically, this doesn't make sense, as I know that this house is better, but emotionally I can't get it all lined up to feel that way. I do the same thing with almost any transition, or change. Friends, changing of seasons, everything. Even if I am happy about the changes that occurred Strangely, I don't do it as much with people, as with with places, things, and situations.

"You don't know what you got until its gone." Aye, that be too true. People have a tendency to take people and things alike for granted, probably thinking nothing will ever happen to them. It isn't until after you lose them, you realize how that person or object affects you and your life. Then you wish you were more grateful to that person or appreciated that object more. So I guess, we really ought to appreciate what we have while we still can.

Eh, I know how it is. I either have that nostalgic reaction or the other extreme, of convincing myself that everything about a time period in my life/a place/a relationship was crap, and boy am I glad to be out of that. Usually either reaction is more or less accurate to how it was, if not a bit exaggerated with time.