does your A.S. problem subside during a hobby conversation?

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Does anyone else find that they can leave their A.S. handicap behind and talk the hind leg off a donkey with confidence whilst discussing a hobby subject? I fly radio control model aircraft in aerobatic competitions and am much sought after for advice at my local club. Little do my fellow club members know what a different character I am when I’m away from the flying field. The confidence, flair, and showmanship (when flying) totally disappearing like smoke. When I drive through the access gate to go home I truly am on the wrong planet.

No, it's sometimes a bit worse. I belong to the local Ferrari Club, and run around with my camera taking pics at the get-togethers. Everyone looks at me like I'm nutters for taking so many pics ! !

Yes, I am able to speak about my hobby without problems and I am happy among people with the same hobby. I am not taken as eccentric which is speaking only about the same thing.

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Of course!

I know exactly what you are talking about. I am a ham radio operator, and when I get on a technical discussion, I can talk for hours. Same for discussions about DMAT, or computers.

I was talking so much someone had to make their excuses and run

Not at all. Get me started on one of my obsessions, and I'll blabber on and on about it and nothing else, in stereotypical Aspie fashion, absolutely completely oblivious to your level of interest in the subject. My social anxiety subsides a little, but the AS is definitely still there.

I try to tone myself down, now that I know people aren't all that interested in the complete unabridged history of...whatever

Try

Whatever my DX is, I'm totally like this. Get me on a subject I know a lot about, and I'm a good talker. Anything else, I either don't talk, or I zone out due to lack of interest.

It can. Unfortunately my current hobby is kind of lame, but I could talk about World of Warcraft and mmos in general until I pass out.

Oh arbie that's cool man.

I was a World of Warcraft guild leader hey.

Eventually my neurological/cognitive disorder just wore me into the ground.

But geez what a ride that was.

I was a great guild leader and raid leader. Not because I was ruthless and brutal but because I was brutal in removing anyone in my crew that couldn't play nice or be cool to each other.

Eventually, the disorder won though. And I just didn't log in one day. I just couldn't handle the pressure of having all these people relying on me.

I could run two Karazhan raids simultaneously when it was first out. I could log onto teamspeak and if a group was repeatedly wiping, I could take control and get them to one shot anything they were up against. My wife would run one raid on her computer and I would run the main raid from my main machine.

I thought that, just because World of Warcraft (is just a game) (sic) that I would never be worn down by my cognitive/neurological disorder. I was wrong.

I have some kind of (stess induced dyslexia) aspect to my Aspergers. I get to a point where my cognitive functions break down the more stressed out I get and running a day care centre for over 18 year old eventually broke me.

I just couldn't handle the constant drama. When my nerves were steady it was like I was indefatigable but it wasn't to last. Eventually, I did wear out.

Ppffff hahaa, yeh I know how you feel man.

I WILL NEVER LEAD A GUILD AGAIN.

I learned the hard way, quite heartbreakingly, what my limits are.

It's a bit of a tragedy, I was a fine, upstanding, honourable, guild leader. And I was freaken good at it. Nothing is worth the stress though.

I actually ran three guilds. For the first guild, someone asked me to set it up and I did in record time, then they kicked me out, once I did my job. They were raiding Molten Core in record time. My second guild was a complete democratic disaster but it was also raiding Molten Core from creation to a complete clear in record time but imploded, due to poor recruitment choices. My third guild was a roaring success, a benevolent dictatorship/monarchy but it's was my neurological/cognitive disorder that lead to it's downfall. People were totally shocked when I walked away, I never explained to them that I dissappeared because I was feeling so sick, of all the politiking I had to do to keep it running.

I'm playing Eve at the moment, but once again, I can feel the pressure of all the people in the corp wearing me down and have retreated back into my writing.

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt74903.html

It's all cool man, you just need to know what your limits are, accept them and work within the limits. Stop fighting your cognitive/neurological disorder and just roll with it.

I had the strongest of women backing me up and helping me in running the guild and it still wasn't enough. Geez now she wants to try get be back into the gym and back to University.

Ahhhh, nice talkin to yah man, I know how you feel. You are not alone.

Yeh my strategy was to keep people completely focused on the goal, I helped and guided them towards the fact that if they wanted any hope of reaching the very heights of WOW heaven they just had to suck it up and repeat encounters till they got it right. And I was downright draconian when it came to drama, I had a zero tolerance policy when it came to drama on my raids. If someone freaked out and started throwing a tantrum I would kick them from the raid and put them in the chill zone, unable to communicate in guild chat till they sobered up. That way I actually filtered out people who could keep their cool under no matter how much stress an encounter would place on them after working on it for 8 hours straight from those that broke easy. And if they couldn't keep their cool I would kick them and replace them.

It was just to brutal for me. It's just not in my nature to politick at that level. Damned if I wasn't good at it though.

The best way to describe my guild leading style was infinitely benevolent and patient and tough as freaken nails.

It was, until I became to ill to function in the real world, an incredably effective strategy for running a guild.

But I have learned my place. I'm infinitely loyal to those I align myself to and I am the perfect soldier for a leader looking for such a thing. I'm not sure I'll ever play WOW again but I'm kinda tempted to rejoin WOW when WOTF comes out. This time of course I would never lead a guild again. But then again I can't imagine I could ever find a guild leader that I would trust enough to work for.

Most guild leaders are freaken neurotypical maniacs.