Asperges Diagnosis/Test

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Hello.

I am 16 years old and i am afraid to go to a doctor/psychologist for a Asperges diagnosis.
Mainly because i am afraid that if i am not diagnosed with it people will stamp me as a weirdo.

I dont have anyone i can talk to about it, or at least anyone that will understand

I have looked at the normal symptoms for Asperges and almost all of them fit on me.

What should i do?

well first of all being stamped as a weirdo is likely to happen if you are diagnosed or not, if you display the symptoms. If people don't notice you're different already....you might not need any kind of diagnosis. I've been a weirdo my whole life (all 23 years), it's only recently that doctors have begun to wonder WHY. My family still just thinks I'm quirky and tends to reject the whole notion of any kind of autism.

but, what would a diagnosis get you? I don't know how severe your symptoms are, but, before you worry too much about seeing the MDs to get it confirmed, ask yourself what that will get you (positive things I mean).

Also, remember that you never have to tell anyone you don't feel comfortable telling. You don't get a neon sign if you take the time to discuss your symptoms with your doctor that announces it to the world.

Sometimes, it is enough to give the weirdity a name. A lot of us here on WP have been thrilled to just have a name for the weirdity. I guess, if you are too scared to go official, perhaps it would be enough to know in your own heart that there are other weirdos out there that share the weirdness and that you are not alone. Perhaps it is enough to connect to others and understand that you are not alone. You may not feel you really need the offical. At some point, though, you may wish that you had done the official, though.

In the meantime, read the posts, absorb the info, take what is helpful, discard the rest. Welcome to WP.

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Hi there!

I would strongly urge you to go and get the diagnosis, especially if you are getting financial help with it. The "official" nature of a diagnosis will open doors for you in college, in the workplace and generally in life.

In College

You will have ready access to a whole lot extra help in areas when/where needed.

At work

There are numerous tax credits for employers to hire the disabled, some of which are
worth so much as to cover over half your salary. I am working under such an arrangement
and after my employer came to understand my areas of strength and weakness we have
a wonderful working relationship and truly enjoy each others company. There is alot
to be said for "being on the same page" with fellow workers.

In Life

It's important to know yourself so that you can better understand others. If you don;t feel comfortable in your own skin, you will not be successful in either platonic ro romantic relationships, or at least that has been my experience.

Love ya much and hope I helped! (Oh, and welcome to WP!)

Jeffrey Bottoms aka
The Wax Deejay
"Spinning the hits from 1887 to 1945 (since 1996!)"

The reason I'm afraid to go is because I fear they'll misdiagnose me or claim nothing is wrong when I know there is. But I need to talk to someone or else I will go even crazier.

I am familiar with that feeling, and the situation!

Your fears are real, I do not mean to discredit them:

1. You're plans require that you invest in yourself emotionally, and that
feeling can be a fear of a possible 'meltdown' or being overloaded during
or even now by just thinking about the tests ... (and that is normal)

2. Being tested (the process) is designed to (and will!) find your weak
spots. This will tend to dredge up memroies of past failures. It is very
important for you to ALLOW the test to do it's job and not to
'hide' or use your coping mechanisms while testing. Your goal is a
high degree of accuracy and you need to cooperate with the tests.

And lastly ...

3. If a professional has agreed to make an appointment with you, they
have by this time, come to a realization (as have you) that you are an
aspie, but now you need to go through the diagnostic process.

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Sounds also like you could use a hug, and some encouragement
so you won't drop out of this project. I'm hoping my note helps to
calm your fears by acknowledging them, and then explaing what
emotions you will need to process during the test.

I'd love to know how this goes for you!

Jeffrey

I understand how you feel. Something else to consider is that you're still of an age where insurance will probably cover you. I have similar thoughts running through my head but I am unable to financially seek a diagnosis as these things aren't really covered for adults.

best wishes.

I guess the advantage of not getting diagnosed is that it allows you and others to work on the basis that there's nothing mentally 'wrong' with you ... which in fact, there isn't.
But a label is just that : a label (and it might as well be stamped on your forehead), saying 'Impaired'.

Better people judge by the evidence of their own ears whether or not you're 'impaired', than prejudge you on the basis of any preconceptions or prejudices they may happen to have.

And at the end of the day, it avoids raising the question of whether or not you're impaired.

Finances are another reason I don't get it looked at.
But thanks and yes, WaxDeejay!

I also fear that if i go to the Doctors that might say i don't have it and I'll be lost at what the hell is wrong with me then. But if you can have a knowing idea that you have it but soem doctor saying you haven't doesn't necassarily bar you from saying you have it. Because the person you go into might just get it completly wrong. I would say don't worry about it, because the positives that come out of it usually out way the negative thoughts you have going into it.

Online tests are great and scientifically accurate. Use them.

Got any links to some decent ones? I can't really find any...

I would contact your doctor...and then they will refer you to the people you know best. Though I do have to warn you it takes quite a long time and can be frustrating when you don't hear from them in a few months...

Ok, thanks

At least you can see the doctor if you wanted too, I'm in the US and can't afford the offical assesment. My therapist thinks I might be Aspie, but I don't know if I can get dxed through him or not really.