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I need some ideas from you guys to help me with an embarrasing behaviour of D's. Most of the time when he get to a pedestrian crossing he puts his hand up to tell the cars to stop. I find this very embarrassing and see no need as the cars have actually stopped.
How can I get over this (I'm NT , D is HFA)

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not to be rude, but you really should just deal with it, it's not hurting anyone and he could be doing a lot worse things... i've seen seemingly NT kids do the same thing..

Jeff

isn't he just thanking them for stopping? you didnt mention whether you tried to explain it to him.

btw, i do have hard time to see whether the car is going to stop even if they are evidently slowing down, i just wait until they stop completely. one can never be sure.

as your son cannot be sure that the car stays that way. he will grow over it.

Last edited by tomamil on 30 Aug 2008, 11:59 am, edited 1 time in total.

I do this sometimes. what is the problem? It is also customary to put you hand up to thank the driver for stopping. I think you should get over it. I was though this thread was going to be about something serious.

I remember when was with this girl and I tried hailing a taxi by sticking my thumb out. She was embarrassed and said in a huff, "Don't do that!" I asked her how might I hail a taxi. I burst out laughing as she proceeded to hail a taxi how you'd imagine the queen might, that's if the queen ever rode in a taxi. Don't be a princess. If you want him to be confident in himself don’t tell him he is doing something wrong when he isn’t.

I wonder why he does it.

Does he thinks he must do it for some reason, does something scare him in that situation or does he just think it's a cool game? Can he tell you in some way or do you have an idea?

I DO vaguely remember doing the same, just to attract attention, especially if not all the cars had stopped. You would be SURPRISED at what people would do! HECK, one day a jerk tried to run me off the road! He LITERALLY followed me on my bike. I later found it was a jerk student in my 3rd grade class.

You want EMBARRASING!?!?!? What about a jerk here that keeps CAPRICIOUSLY stepping out into the street, with NO light, and doing the same! SOMETIMES, he will even flash a VERY bright light into oncoming drivers to blind them! The jerk thinks his little colored suit will save him from his STUPIDITY! One person here recently got run over for doing at least something similar. Did I mention that they were over 30, and police officers? I mean I guess they figure getting run over is ok if someone can sue, or throw the other person in jail.

At least your son, presumably, gives the drivers adequate time beforehand!

my hands go up because the chakras on my palms can be used as psi sensors.
maybe you are misreading him and asking him not to look as an aspie.
did you ever think of that?





Then you need to stop and stop and stop and think.
I assure you that NT behaviors are for more emberassing than that.

Honestly, I see this as a non-issue... not sure what embarrassment would be caused thusly. It assures or comforts him on some level; is that really a problem? Just remember your needs are not his, and trying to make him conform in such a manner will not likely achieve the results desired.


M.

First, realising that the problem is yours to deal with is a good start. Eventually you will overcome your need to prejudge, dominate, and control others.

Best wishes.

lol thats not bad u should see what my friends do in drive in

In England, holding your hand up means 'thanks'. I don't think you should worry too much because I have heard of kids who drop down in the middle of the road and scream. I have often said this to my Mum when I am behaving oddly, 'be thankfull you don't have to change my diapers!'

Better for him to do that then do like me, and just cut right through the traffic.

I always do this to acknowledge that the cars have stopped. I also do this when I am driving to acknowledge when someone has let me go before them. I just think it is polite, so I don't see the problem.