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I read up on the internet i n regards too disabled people that after the death of there parents they end up in residential care homes.

Does this apply too as pies and people with autism?

Not always. Only sometimes.

Many people with autism/asperger's manage to live independently -- some people need supports to live independently, but that doesn't automatically mean living in a residential care home.

The disabled people you speak of were cared for my their parents. When their parents died, they had no one else to take care of them so off to a nursing home they went. They'd only place someone with autism in a nursing home if their caretaker parents died and they still needed someone to take care of them (feed them, pay the bills, do the laundry, dress them, toilet them, etc).

Can you still get put in a nursing home even if you can feed yourself or go to the toilet without any supervision.

Only if that person was completely dependent upon parents and has no one else to look after them and they are completely unable to look after themselves even on disability income. In a situation like that, they'd either end up a care home or end up homeless.

Those aren't the only factors involved. Are you totally dependent upon your parents, or do you think you'd be capable of living an independent life?

I am dependant on my parents and i am unsure if I can live an independant life. That's only because though I am so used too my parents pampering me my entire life so far.

I have problems with anxiety and my emotions which can make things hard.

Can you:
-Bathe yourself?
-Dress yourself?
-Pay your bills?
-Go food shopping?
-Budget your money?
-Take out the trash?
-Do your laundry?
-Ride the bus?
-Cook your own food?

Bathe myself - yes
Dress myself - yes
Pay your bills - not sure?
Go food shopping - yes but sometimes I dislike crowded enviorments and I am not always very good with managing money.
Budget your money - not sure?
Do your laundry - yes but at the moment I make my mum and dad do it cause I am lazy :
Take out the trash - yes
Ride the bus - yes
Cook your own food - yes

If you can't live alone they will put you into a home.

From what you've posted it sounds to me like you've got nothing to worry about. Homes are for people that can't take care of themselves at all, not just people that might have trouble getting enough money to take care of themselves.

I live with my mother and couldn't live on my own due to lack of money. If I had enough money to live on I'd manage fine.

Also homes may not be the only option. I knew a guy that was schizophrenic and had a girlfriend with something wrong with her too and they had some kind of support worker that came and visited them.

If you can't take care of yourself financially, hygiene wise, clean up after yourself etc, there's little choice but some sort of sheltered housing, group home etc. (Unless you land on the streets)

You are still young so hopefully your parents will be around for a long time. I've had people telling me "your mother isn't going to be around to take care of you forever" since I was in grade school yet at the age of 38 she is still here supporting me.

If you are so worried then start trying to work more on being independent now while you still have them to support you if things don't work out.

I think this applies to people with severe autism more.
I have a brother with severe autism. My parents think I won't be able to take care of him when I'll be older, since I'll probably be barely able to take care of myself in the future.
This is why they're trying to put my brother in a residential care home near my house, so that I will be able to visit him once my parents will be gone.

One of the worst things in hindsight to me about my father's recent death was that I never got to tell him straight out "dad I won't end up in an institution, I've lived away from you all five years financially independent 80% of the time, you can die knowing I won't end up in a home or institution".

He always used to experience such stress wondering what would happen to me when he was gone. I regret so much not getting one last chance to talk to him frankly. If you want to see an emotion free robot cry well thats me.

Its not that i can't live on my own per say buts its more of an issue of money and holding down a job which are the MAJOR barriers in independant living. I can live by myself but so far i am only used too doing the basics like cooking and cleaning the house etc.....


This is something that society NEEDS too work on is more housing options for people.