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i just cant stand it anymore familie who think bad about me because i cant go sport

i have a reason why but telling the truth is even worse then telling nothing its been like this

for years now i just cant stand it anymore i like sport more than anything and i cant go to places

unless there like 100miles away god i really hate my familie they treat me so f*****g bad

and theres even a second reason why i cant go to sport and its because im (temporarly) cripple on

my legs a few months now and sporting would make it worse and still they whant to think that its because im worth

nothing and im lazy and stuff wth is wrong with some people cant they just see the truth in eyes rather than searching a way

to hate me!it drives me crazy im weakening and i cant do anything about it

it sounds like you need to have clear communication with them about your boundaries.

And also, you need to be able to give yourself permission to be who you are and not be upset by it.

Breathe deep and relax a bit. I give you permission; not that I have any authority, I'm just giving you the permission you
need to give yourself.

cant act like myself anymore i have way to much problems in my head and im very lockd in all situations so i dont see many things to do and before (at age like 0-13)
i used to not sport because house whas empty as hell and no one whas home ever so i used to watch tv and eat sardines all day still i have a very persistant mind in sporting i can do it very well even with my cripple and problem stuffs

sport? sporting? can you be more specific?

Thats a damaging false idea. You can only act like yourself, acting like anybody else is faking it and sooner or later
it won't work.




What are those problems? How can I help you with them?
Maybe we can work on this and things can get better?





Which is why you have to learn to be honest with yourself and others about your limitations.





I don't understand this last part. Could you elaborate?

not at the moment im a bit low at thinking right now

okay

Why don't you go take a nice hot shower or a nap or something, and come back when you are ready to solve your problems?

ive been wrestling with unescapable problems for years now tought about 100solutions always eventualy come up with a bad end

Well, I'm an uncommonly good problem solver with a lot of information, so this is a totally new situation unlike anything b4.

General
1.Psychology is the study of the human mind. Most specifically the psyche, most generally All of human behavior.
2. The human Brain is composed of between 40 and 70 different organs, depending upon
how you define differences. These are called brodmanns brain areas. Each brain area
is responsible for specific types of brain processes and mental functions.
3. The human mind has four main operational conditions, they are beta brainwave states, alpha brainwave states, delta brainwave states, and theta brainwave states. Each of these might be further subdivided into waking or sleeping states of consciousness.
4. Beta brainwave states are those in which the dominant area of the brain is the frontal lobes. Alpha brainwave states are those in which the dominant area of the brain is the Mammalian brain or Occipital lobes, and Delta brainwaves states are those where the brain is dominated by the Reptilian Brain or brain stem. Theta brain wave states are
a second waking condition in which the body is healed, or, in which the normal flow of
dominance from top of brain to bottom of brain is reversed, and the bottom of the brain
loads information into the top, which is then experienced as dreams.
5. We have instincts which compel us to seek out gratification of our needs. All behavior is motivated by a conscious or unconscious belief that said behavior will get some need met.
6. Psychology involves first an instinct, which compels a thought process, and then a planning or strategizing session in which the individual uses their maps of reality and belief systems as well as learned knowledge and social conditioning to arrive at an end
product of doing something to get what you want. Schema are maps of reality which we
use as tools to meet our needs .Social Conditioning and personal experience and learning
play vital roles in helping the mind to think up tactics to meet needs.
7. Criminal behavior is behavior which that person believes will get their needs met. Punishment was well demonstrated to have little or no effect on learning curve. What is required for a person to change their behavior is a functional tactic that does work to get their needs met.
8. Groupthink is a social phenomenon of psychology where a group uses false
consensus process to end up behaving stupidly as a group. Groupthink occurs when
people cave into social pressures, where propaganda replaces knowledge or facts, and where group identity is created out of participation in group delusions, lies, codependency, or criminality. Groupthink is how a mob drifts to the lowest common denominator, and why a mob is potentially vicious, evil, and sociopathic. Group
authority ameliorates and dissolves personal conscience, and by having their emotions
manipulated and their social identity threatened, people give up their own better judgment and accept the judgment of the most psychopathic member of the group.
9. Pack Psychology is the psychology exhibited primarily by mammals in small groups
in which 3 primary roles are assumed by social participants. The roles are Alpha- the leader, Beta- the followers, and Delta- the orbiters. In human society that translates in a super-simplified way into bullies, cliques, and nerds.
10. Problem solving psychology must contend against groupthink and pack psychology in the arena of opinion. Problem solving psychology is emotionally neutral and uses the mind and logic to look at all aspects of a problem and try to come up with a viable problem solving process. Problem solving psychology is the worst enemy of both
Rightist and Leftist Dogmatists. True problem solving psychology comes from the place of the radical middle. It takes in all sides and all viewpoints, and it gives each its fair dues
And attention in creating a problem solving process that works from the big picture down through into the nano details.


Psychology;
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychology
http://psychology.about.com/
http://www.psychology.org/
http://psychology.wikia.com/wiki/Main_Page
http://www.encyclopedia.com/doc/1E1-psychlgy.html
http://www.socialpsychology.org/

Brodmanns brain areas and etc;
http://www.umich.edu/~cogneuro/jpg/Brodmann.html
http://spot.colorado.edu/~dubin/talks/b ... dmann.html
http://www.whale.to/b/brain.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brodmann_area
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_re ... uman_brain
http://thebrain.mcgill.ca/flash/capsule ... une05.html
http://www.csuchico.edu/~pmccaff/syllab ... unit4.html
http://faculty.washington.edu/chudler/qa2.html

brainwaves;
http://www.brainwaves.com/brain.html
http://pages.prodigy.net/unohu/brainwaves.htm
http://brain.web-us.com/brainwavesfunction.htm
http://www.crossroadsinstitute.org/eeg.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brainwaves

i never understood this. if someting is unescapable than you cannot escape it. and this is not just AS related problem. i've seen a lot of NT's trying to fight with unsolvable problems. it's like people keep refusing the idea of giving up, but how can you solve something that has happened and doesn't have a solution anymore? you just don't. the only thing one can do is to accept the consequencies and get used to it. focuse on what you want, not on what you don't want.

there is one solution and thats running away from this crap house and all my problems i know people say that running away from your problems doesnt work but i dont really care cause doing nothing is not quite of a good solution to living like this will definetly get me mentaly crazy im sure of it its only a matter of time

you'd be surprised how much more you can stand before you go crazy
i see another solution:
you stop caring so much, just forget it, don't care what anyone else thinks about you. how come you allow other people to make you suffer? it's not worth it.

seems like you understand the situation bad im talking about no way out i cant stand or move where i want in my house without being blamed to stand somewhere school is pretty much usseles sinds it drives me sick really i always limit telling problems its also hard to explain it only makes me feel sick in my stumage when people think i have small problems
*but its good to know it takes long before you go crazy cause im scared of halucinating because i just know that im not living as it supposed to be

ok, i see that your problems are huge for you. but really, if you don't see a way out, cannot you just accept it? i mean it's not going to be like this forever. once you get to different level of your life, you will have different problems to deal with and the problems you have right now will be long gone.

how do you think you will be looking at your current problems then? is there some big problem from your past you had hard time to deal with and now it's just a meaningless past? all problems (at least those that don't kill you) are going to be like that. so what's the point of suffering from them when you can just let them pass through your life. it works for me.

i can live with memorys but the problems im talking about are relative
im still in those ones memorys are just a small problem that makes me stretch my muscels or hurt myself