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Yesterday, I was sitting on a bench at a local bus stop. This guy behind me called to me and asked me when the next bus was coming. There were two busses arriving at that stop, so I told him the next one was coming about now. Then out of nowhere he was like. "I'd like to get to know you." I was a bit nervous, and I didn't say anything. Then he said "Can I have your number?"

"No." was the first thing I said. I start to look at him funny, he asked me how old I was. i don't even know the guy and he's asking me for my phone number? I was very nervous and uncomfortable around him. He left thank god, but I wasn't sure what he wanted from me.

First I had the idea that he wanted to get into my pants. The second idea I got was that he found me attractive and he likes me.

What do you think he wants?

(I was wearing a tank top. It was hot out.)

basically- if you find the guy attractive- give the number, if you don't - tell him politely to fcuk off.

you're goin to have situations like this throughout your life, whether or not you wear tank-tops on a hot day ;p

He was attractive. I just wasn't sure if he likes me or if he's a pervert. I know I'll never see him again.

it's not a *pervert* thing to chat up a girl at a buss stop Chimchar

I always do kinda what you did just because I'm bad at random chit-chat, and I always regret it later. I guess there's nothing you can do about it now but if you fancy a guy just go for it, unless he acts like a total idiot.

Uh, that's a little unusual, if the only conversation you'd had prior was about when the bus was coming.

but that's a little creepy to me (at least) to have a total stranger ask for your number.

If you're unsure about a guy, you could always refuse and ask for his number instead- if he fancies you and isn't a creep, he probably won't mind.

sounds like a resonable advice to me.

I've given my number (not to a stranger), but some people bang on about 'you must ask for her number' I really don’t get that why?

It's a polite way of saying 'Can we do the horizontal Mamba ?'

As far as I know, the men who do this are jerks looking for a quick, short-term girlfriend. Any genuine and half decent person would have at least engaged in some conversation. I think you did the right thing in not giving him your number. He might have even used it to harass you.

I think I got asked for my number before and it annoyed me mainly because of the fact that they didn't specify phone number and I said 'what? My student number?' and they thought I was really stupid lol

So you got annoyed with yourself ?

I think that's a bit creepy. I would definitely have said no.

Are these mutually exclusive then ?


No wonder !

You can't go out wearing tank tops just because it's hot.

Where will it end ?
Next you'll be showing your ankles.

A guy asking your number at a bus stop is not that unusual - it's happened to me many a time & I generally reacted like ChimChar did (except I said, "Sorry, but I don't know you'). It takes an aspie by surprise because they're not used to being 'solicited' (for lack of a better term at the moment) out in public like that. Usually it's considered less strange if the same guy asks for a girl's number at a bar or other social setting - he's still a stranger, per se - but usually he should only ask after they've spent some time talking, like at least an hour or two.

Maybe he thought you were attractive and was interested in dating you. So he asked for your number.


Hey a guy approached you, what are the odds of that happening to an aspie woman.

I never had the guts to do that to a guy because of my shyness and the fact I am afraid of doing something wrong. Like what do I have to do before I ask for their number? I can't just walk up to someone and ask for their number because I am a stranger. or say a few things to them and ask for their number. I am afraid of freaking them out. But when an aspie does it, at least they had the guts to do it.


What are the odds of that happening to an aspie guy?