NT/AS communication help

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I am looking for some resources for help with communication in a female AS/ male NT marriage. I am realizing that most of the time my husband and I talk, we are completely missing the point of what each other is saying. I need to learn his language and he mine. Has anybody found help with this? Also, my NT husband is looking for a support type group with other NT husbands. So far, all he has found are forums with NT wives complaining about life with their AS husbands. Any POSITIVE support for the NTs of an NT/AS relationship? Any suggestions for finding a good counselor with knowledge in this area?

My daughter is in a NT/Aspie marriage - she being NT. Her husband doesn't acknowledge that he is aspergers though he has two aspie sons.

In Brisbane, Australia, there has been monthly meetings for NT partners who are committed to staying in marriage - hence less aspie bashing. It is supported by Tony Attwood. I also know that there was an NT wife and journalist on WP for some time who was going to write a book about Aspie/NT marriages.

I'm sorry I can't offer practical support. All the best to you both!

Robyn

Wow.... I thought he'd accepted it and was "onboard"... that must make things difficult.


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MYTIME,

I'm in an aspie/nt marriage but I'm the aspie (husband). Since aspie females are less often detected, you'll find it easier to locate male-aspies in those sort of relationships.

Anyway - if you want to talk to me, you can post here or you're welcome to PM me.
If you want to talk to my wife, you'd be best of PM-ing her as she doesn't check the forums as often (you can PM her as jbollard).

BTW: In answer to your communications questions, what helped my wife and I was letter writing. I've documented the procedure etc on my blog - see the links below...

Letter Writing in Relationships
Part 1: Why Letter Writing is "communicating in Aspie"
http://life-with-aspergers.blogspot.com/2008/09/letter-writing-in-relationships.html

Part 2: Things to Remember when Writing to your Partner
http://life-with-aspergers.blogspot.com/2008/09/letter-writing-in-relationships_22.html

Part 3: Using Letter Writing to Solve Relationship Problems
http://life-with-aspergers.blogspot.com/2008/10/letter-writing-in-relationships.html