Asperger traits as a source of strength?

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So most things about aspergers lead to difficulties, true.
But does anyone ever find aspie traits make certain things easier? I thought about this today, which was a bad day for many people at my university. I started to get all wrapped up in it (my mimicking behaviour unfortunately sometimes leads me to emulate others responses automatically, so I don't realize I don't actually feel that way myself, I'm just mirroring other people) before I stopped and thought hang on, you're an aspie, you don't actually feel these things and when I identified that I was simply responding (even to myself) in the way that's "normal" to respond, it stopped the reaction right there and it saved me a lot of bother. I was able to cope with the situation much, much more equitably than others because I discounted my own mirrored emotional response as irrelevant. My superiors commented with some surprise on how good my attitude was and how well I was handling things when my compatriots were all crying. Thus, in this instance, apparently such a dispassionate aspie-like trait saved me from spending all evening crying like my associates.
Anyone else encountered this?

I think that the vast majority of Aspy traits represent genuine strengths...the problem that I see is that those strengths don't translate into social world applicability. I believe it's one reason why so many Aspies thrive at work and/or under pressure compared to NTs...but being able to be dispassionate when someone is dying (I'm an emergency medicine nurse) may be desirable and useful in a crisis...but being dispassionate when someone is showing off fifty snapshots of their 8th newborn grandchild (you know the kind of picture I'm talking about--they all look the same!) for an entire week seems to be socially unacceptable.....if you don't gush and tremble and shoot sparks out of your butt with joy then you're just a mean soul-less crank. I think you can get the idea of what I'm saying....and I don't mean to be a killjoy, because honest to god, I'm thinking about just letting fly with my own Superior Smugness Flag instead of cowering meekly in the corner any more (I'm 44, three kids, married 25 years, so I think I've done my share of "adapting"!) and if that makes people scatter and run for cover then so be it. I've seen it alluded to a time or two on WP---it's a pisser to realize that we ASD's could rule the world if we ever decided to fight back!

Yeah, I think we have loads of strengths and talents. The problem is making them work in the world... I'm still working on it.

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