Do you resent being introverted?

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I used to resent being an introvert because others thought there was something wrong with me for not being out-going and social. Over time, I've learned to view it as something to take pleasure in, not something to be ashamed of and don't allow others to make me feel defective for keeping to myself.

I've always been right in the middle of introversion and extroversion, but I never half resented my half introversion. Most of my fastly growing number of friends has been made with little effort.

Nope. I'm usually quite content enjoying my solitude. Though if I didn't have some human interaction every two days or so I'd go crazy no doubt. But I don't seem to require as much as most people.

I am very flexible. When alone i am introverted, but when put in a situation where it is appropriate to be more extrovertive i can match them and actually become the center of attention. I can shift between both extremes of the extrovert introvert scale on a whim. But if i could do anything i wanted i would just sit here and post on wrong planet and play infantry and socialize on here, and then spend a bunch of time being in my own head, forever. So i don't know if i am more introverted, or more extrovertive.

I may spend most of my time in a corner by myself, but that doesn't mean I have to like it.

i WANT to be an extrovert. i really do. i am more so than i've ever been, but i hate being all cut off and quiet and i just feel like i always have so much to say that hasn't been said...

If I were an extrovert, I'd have a more powerful, influential personality, and would probably be way more successful in all areas of life. So yeah, I kind of resent my introversion.

Complicated question for me. I voted "no." Before I was diagnosed, I would have voted "yes, with a bloody, scathing vengence."

I have a lot of quiet, introverted time. I do a lot of my work then. It feels right and proper for who I am.

I also have a face I turn to social situations that is very extroverted and socially involved. It's a projection of the "me" inside that wants to contribute and communicate with my brethren, a part I play as an actor to fulfill needs. It involves a lot of effort, training, and attention to maintain this social face. If I did it all the time, I would collapse. But it, too, is part of who I am.

I love my introversion but it is only thro reeding lots of posts on the subject that I feall ok about it. Now I resent the 8 or so years of my life that have bean wasted because I have been forced to be social by parents, teachers, councillors of varying stupidly, and anti-psychotic to be social. I failed to subjects this year and I realised it is because I am always tired, well I have always known that but now I know what is causing it. That it is the fact that I have been trying to keep lots of friends and go to every party even tho I don’t really like the people or the parties. So no more I am going retreat and get some well over due time out. And seriously consider who I want to be Friends with IRL. Man people are going to get pist off at me but I don’t care any more.

I would say i'm both extrovert and introvert.

In my 20s I was the life and soul at the Numan discos I attended. Although now at 38, I have mellowed out a lot; I still often like to be in the limelight with my eccectric ways.
I like to socialise, but not too much. After too much socialising, (which often isn't very much) I like to get away and have time to myself.
I am quite a bubbly person as well as being quiet and uninterested in the group at other times.

The ways in which I am more introverted are in that I tend to be influenced from within myself rather than by external influences and other people.
I like a LOT of time alone to think or just 'be' without thought. I can get very stressed if I don't get enough time to myself.
I like to people watch and to remain unhindered in this.
When in a group where I am not interested in the conversation, I get agitated when I am disturbed from my train of thought where my mind has wondered and then I am annoyed by someone talking to me or the general noise disturbing me from my thoughts.
I like being at home and living alone and sometimes get stressed out if my boyfriend is over the weekend and I don't get space.

I don't think I'm a shy person but I do have trouble with social interaction when with NTs

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I wouldn't mind if I was just introverted to the extent of most nerds.But im introverted to the point where I can't talk to strangers at all no matter how much I need or want to. I once got asked out by a girl that I liked I knew she was genunely interested in me because she had been looking at me with a simle ever since I met her. She asked me out and I said yes but still couldn't really talk to her because she was a stranger. I really wanted to talk to her but I just couoldn't force any more words out past the first yes. And then she thought I was very odd. This sort of thing has happened to me 3 times when I have been asked out and have not been able to talk.

Because I can't talk to strangers no matter who they are no matter how nerdy they are. I really want to and I try all the time. I'm hoping that theres some way to break past it. I can easily go about 2 weeks with out any contact with others I only have to go out every 2 weeks to buy more food. I try so much to interact more.

I definately resent my Introvertedness. I don't have a problem with wanting to be my self I do have a problem with pretty much never being able to talk to other people because im trapped in my own prison of fear of people.
I have some times when I get to know people and start to get bases of confidence but im starting to forget what its like. Its been 1 year since I had any base of friends or really any friends out side my brother.

I don't know if any one else here has the social problem that I do. Because I can interact fine with people once I get past my fear of them. Its just getting past it thats the problem and stopping my self from becoming afraid of them again if for some reason I don't see them for 3 weeks.

I am disabled by introversion.

Just realised that I didn't really answer the quetion!

Where I am introverted I am not bothered by being so. I am happy with the introverted parts of my being. I think introversion often makes people more individual and allows for better self understanding.

At the same time, I am happy with the extroverted part of me too.

I just wish I was better at interaction and social skills, that way I would have more choice as I could use the skills when it suits me and not when it doesn't.

I can relate, in part, to this section of your post; although not to the extreme it affects you.
I might get on really well with someone if they are an NT that is untypical of being NT.
We might really click. Then next time I see them I don't know what to say outside petty small talk and can't refind that energy from the time we clicked.

I like being introverted. There's no way I could do what I love doing without being introverted, because it involves hours and hours of sitting at a desk alone. If I was extroverted I don't think I'd be able to handle all of that alone time. I guess I was always destined to be somewhat introverted anyway as an only child, I only had experiences of spending time alone as a child, occassionally with a friend, but there was never the constant need to share and communicate or be with a sibling.

While for much of my life I've preferred to do things on my own, I've gotten so frustrated with being lonely and feeling left out. It's at the point where it causes less anxiety for me to be social and talk to people than it does to keep to myself.

No.

I could mind my own company for an infinite amount of time.

I would die from boredom eventually however. But don't take this as an oxymoron, I spent four summer vacations completely isolated from people my own age.

College has forced me to be a bit extroverted. It's not that bad, I just say what I have to and no more.