Does anyone have a special interest but not talk about it?

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It can also be bought off the shelf at most large news sellers here - but, yes, I think it may be subscription-only in the States.

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f i didm i obvislly couldnt talk about it

A certain red bus.

I don't usually talk to people, but when I do, I always get my way to put my special interest on topic... But I had already figured out that people around me (work, home, school) don't know anything about my topics, and misunderstand me all the time. I feel like I'm in the wrong planet... lol

There are so many posts on this subject that I didn´t have time to read them all; I just decided to put in my "2 cents".

Like you, I daydream about my special interest topic almost constantly. There have been times in my life when I have talked about various special interests topics constantly, and times when I haven´t. I can´t really say why I sometimes do, and sometimes don´t...I think part of it is that there are certain topics that I want to keep to myself...I can´t explain it. When someone shows interest in my topic- and especially, if they have a bit of knowledge themselves- I may start talking, and never be able to stop. (And have a very difficult time when interrupted!) But there are also times when I don´t want to talk about certain topics with certain people, possibly because I don´t want to reveal myself too much to those people. Or, I may be aware that they know very little about that topic, and I don´t want them to get it into a small-talkey, introduction type of chat- (if I know a lot about a certain topic, I want to talk about it on an advanced level!)

When I was a young child, I rarely talked about special interest subjects. (I didn´t talk much at all, come to think of it). I would either DO my interests, or daydream about them...(some of my "special interests" when I was a child involved my own imagination and my own private world, which I didn´t reveal). As I got older, I talked about them more. I think my parents always knew what my obsession was- (although they were often 1 obsession behind, not keeping quite up to date). I think some of them I talked about a lot, and some, not much.

As a kid, I talked about them.

Then I was trained on the hard way to stop it by my family. Whenever I started talking, I was told off!

I remeber too well phrases like "Nobody is interested in your crap!" or "No one is interested in your sh*t!"....

Now I don't talk much about it... Especial the family!

With friends, I share interests on the web.

Somebody interested? click

I've learned not to talk about my true obsessions. Lesser obsessions still splurt out sometimes. Never have found anybody get sparked into sharing interests when splurting.

Also, if I were to talk about my true obsessions I would immediately be thought insane. I have found out I'm not insane at all, but that ppl simply are not interested in what I am interested in -- even those ppl whose business would strongly indicate they should be interested.

Ah well, I am my own best company and can talk to myself endlessly about my obsessions. It's great fun actually. And God is VERY interested and talks back but one cannot ever talk about THAT ! !!

I think it was a realisation similar to this that led upto my depression, mainly because i just stopped talking to people. Once that "oh shut the f**k up" expession was learned i just shut down on most occasions.

Silence of the interests topic

I like to read about others special interests here...as long they are interesting--UFO's, cats, politics, religion, military weapons, neoprene, gardening, do it yourself projects, collections, buses! But I am not interested in computer games, anime, The Simpsons, Dr. Who, Harry Potter, cars, bodybuilding, and the like.

But then not many are interested in history, birographies, Sartre, Kafka, keys, Genocides (and related topics like serial killers, mass murders---that is, human evil), philosophy, and the like. I do not start threads about my special interests, but if something comes up, I contribute.

This is a very interesting thread.

Ive driven a few people into catatonia on a few of those subjects . I think they have learned not to open one of these subjects unless they want to know everything i do before they leave .

I eventually learned that talking about my interests would lead to rejection so I stopped talking about that (although I still find it difficult to hold back if someone else brings it up). Unfortunately I am not very good at talking about anything which is not a special interest, so I am now a very quiet, reticent person, and people think I'm either shy or rude.

It is very difficult to not be able to talk about special interests. It makes me feel very lonely, and I spend a lot of time feeling stressed out because I always have to watch my tongue, and of course alienated.

My special interests are currently socionics, the Enneagram, Morrowind, music, and "abnormal psychology". It is very difficult to find anyone interested in socionics at all because it is obscure, or anyone with more than a superficial understanding of the Enneagram. Morrowind can be a bit easier but people start looking at me funny when they realize that I know most of the NPCs or that I derive so much joy from cataloguing my mod collection. Many people like music but only to the extent that they listen to it and even people who study music seem to be uninterested in the theory (they only want to play, I guess, but I like studying scores even more than I like playing) and no-one wants to hear my argument for why heckelphones are useful instruments that should be used more often (just like no-one wanted to hear my rant on the taxonomy of reptiles when I was more interested in taxonomy and reptiles). For some reason, no-one really wants to hear long lists of the symptoms of disorder X, or my inevitable rant when people use "schizo" to colloquially refer to some misguided concept of dissociative identity disorder.



I also don't understand why so many people seem to be content with very superficial understandings of things. It makes it harder to relate to people, and I think it's unfair to be judged as "knowing too much". I say they know too little.

My partner is NT and has limited capacity for enduring my monologues, but I do get to talk to him about things and he seems to like it in small doses, so this is good for me.

An ex once said, "Why can't you have normal interests?"

Last night I got the idea in my head of drawing extremely complex mazes, so now I'm all day busy at school, drawing this so complex as possible maze. I LOVE it and will draw many more. But I keep silent about this.

Yes, I can totally relate to this!! !