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I now can stand up for myself and have given true waring to my family .. They shall never treat me with disrespect or take anything from me .
I've told them I would break realtions with them if is to persist. However no pshysical damage shall insue upon them . Only the truth shall prevail . I'am not perfect nor shall I be until I have to swipe my "major " credit card at the golden arches.

this message is the truth I hope it is not offinsive.


Valueman

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Aspride!!

Way to go, Valueman! That's a huge step.

I did the same thing with my family in the early '90s. Life got much sweeter (and quieter) after that. I've never regretted it.

Hi Valueman. No, I do not find your message offensive. I believe it is important to stand up for yourself---even if it means with family. What I find truly great with you is that you said you would inflict "no physical damage" upon them. Hopefully you will not have to break ties with them as I find that a sad outcome, but at the same time you must do what is best for you. But thinking positively, I doubt you will have to resort to that. Good luck and enjoy the holidays.

It's good to hear things are going well with you Valueman.

I too have been laying the groundwork for a complete break from my family. I realized that I have to be self-sufficient, so I'm starting a business. It's taken quite a while, and the payments for the debt I've accrued take up all of my SSI check, so I really need to make some money soon. But I should soon have enough money to move far far away and be self-sufficient. I realized that my parents will never change, so the only solution is to put as much distance-physically and financially-between them and me as possible. Ultimatums don't work with them, they just say sure, you do know that we hold the trump cards don't you, it's our game. And for all of my life they've been right. But I want to support myself. Living well is the best revenge, IMO.

I almost did that with my mother a year or so ago. To this day I often regret not doing it. Starting a few years ago though, I cut her garbage short, and have even accentuated problems to get her to hang up. Part of the reason why I moved thousands of miles away was to be thousands of miles away.