Relating to Children

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I've wondered how other aspies relate to children. I have three nephews and I always find them fascinating to be with, but I don't know how to respond to them. My partner knows how to deal with kids and is a natural. Me? Not so much. It's not that I don't like them, but I am always stumped on how to deal with beings that don't seem as logical as I want them to be.

I'm always with kids (well, not while at college). I relate to them. I like playing with them.

i love children, but just like u have no idea how to act, in fact most of the time the child belittles me and treats me like im the child and there the adult and i just go along with it lol but handicapped or disabled children i seem to be amazing with, idk if i understand or if i have a connection i just know i related to handicapped/disabled children really great.

Yeah, I seem to connect (emotionally) only with under 10 kids, it feels good when they are around.

Children dislike me...


Maybe they feel that I'm different.

I relate to children far more easily than to adults. I find them easier to understand because they tend to say directly what they are thinking and feeling. And they seem to like me - I think they are amused by my eccentricity. I think also my mind still works a bit like the mind of a child.

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QFT. I used to get on well with my three kids until they entered their teens, and I guess they outgrew me.

I hate children. I have no clue what to do or how to react around them.

Last edited by PunkyKat on 07 Dec 2008, 3:52 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I can't relate to them at all. I was never into kid things even when I was a kid. That makes being a father very difficult. Now that my son is older I can relate better.

I've always related well to children and wanted children of my own from my early 20s. Now that my child is nearly 16, I am seriously in "relating-to-teenager' mode and don't know if I could switch into "relating-to-small-child" mode. I'd love to be able to, because I really enjoy kids, but my life is in another direction at the moment.

I'm really good with kids, but they have to between certain ages....I am good with tots, they don't talk to you. That's what I mean. Older kids are harder cos they talk, and yammer on and bore me.

I like certain kids within a certain age range.

Actually, I've found that little kids can repond well to logic that they can understand. The problem is they lack a huge amount of knowlege to automatically understand just anything, so sometimes explanations have to be simplified in some ways and elaborated in other ways. Kids like me because I don't treat them like they're dumb just because they haven't learned everything yet.

I know what you mean though, sometimes you just don't want to explain things for hours just to get one little thing done, or get through one movie or game without having to answer a million "why"s. But that's how they learn.

Odd thing is I think I have better theory of mind than most NTs in relating to little kids. Possibly because I remember being a child so vividly. Or possibly because I think so much more like a child , but with adult knowlege and understanding.

I already have a 3 year old and I think he is GrEaT to get along with and play with,
children seem to love me and I get along with them far better then adults,
I have no issues with children of any age as long as I get to be around them as they grow up so can I get to know (read) them,
there about like pages in a book, when they are young they are simple and easy to read,
as they grow the book gets larger and more complex but if you stick with them you know the book as it gets wrote,
if you just jump into the life of a teenager it sometimes gets hard to read or relate too them,
I just wish I was socially good enough to land me a good woman just to have one more child.
thats not to say thats all I would want the woman for, just I love being a family man and would like another chance at it,
even if I never had any more children (and probably wont because of my age and lack of social skills, I am 46)
I would still love to be in a good and healthy loving relationship with a woman and the child I got.

I tend to get along very well with kids...When I am with them, I treat them as equals...I don't talk down to them, or hurt their feelings or try to degrade them...Often times, I am pretty much on their level, so that when I am hanging out with them, I am like a slightly taller kid with just a little bit more authority.

try finding and doing things with the children that "they" enjoy, what I do with my son is I take him out to pick the toys that catch his interest, then out of the many of those I choose a couple thats the most educational and developmental and buy them, then go home and we play/share them together, let them lead, do that and the children will love you for it and they and you will start to relate more and more as time goes by.