telling people about your asperger's/autism

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how casual are you guys about this?

I just brought it up in a conversation about autism with a friend (we study neuroscience, so we both know a bit about this) and mentioned that I fall on the spectrum myself to her. She won't judge me, I think. It's kind of weird how I can tell anybody about my ADHD and not think about it for a second, but asperger's? Not quite yet.

the only people I've told are family & a few friends, no one I currently work with. still reluctant to share with those at work, even my boss whom I could count as a friend.

Most of my friends don't know. I don't tell anyone unless I see good reason to tell them. Which rarely happens. I told my boyfriend and a couple of friends I trust, but that's about it.

I do my best to avoid letting many know about it. Although this guy at work who is actually pretty nice himself and has ADD he tells me kept pestering me why i'm so quiet and speak so softly so i told him. He's cool with it, and keeps it secret.

I have only told one person...a cousin with whom I used to be close friends. Strangely, he couldn't handle it and he became distant and cool. He kept it confidential, but he no longer wanted to be close to me. So I haven't told anyone else. There's no need really - it's enough for me to know.

I tend to be a bit tactless about it. I bring it up casually among friends...none of whom are exactly NT themselves..
I do not tell my family.
I have wanted to tell people I work with on a professional level so they can know why I might act kinda weird and get so easily overwhelamed...but that is wrong of me since I might not even be an aspie, and might just be wanting to use it as an excuse instead of trying to control myself better...and whatnot...

quite frankly - my aim is to not tell anyone, but i am also somewhat tactless about it. AS is becoming a special interest and unfortunately i can swing any exchange around to my special interest and off i go. I don't have a good edit button in my brain (actually it is non-existent) and i am one of those AS people who can talk and talk and only later do i realise that half an hour into my monologue, the other party (or should i say "hostage") has glazed over into a state of catatonia and utter dismay. ho hum.

I don't tell anyone. I don't see my dad telling people about his diabetes and ADHD and depression or my mother telling every one she has a bad back and arthritis and my brother telling everyone he has SAD and depression. I have seen him telling people as a child he is color blind. It was discovered in kindergarten when they had all thr students go to the nurse and they were all given this chart to look at the number. My brother saw a different number so it was known he was color blind.


My family and relatives know and my boyfriend, my ex's.

My parents were the ones that had me diagnosed but my mother took me to most of the appointments and sometimes we all went together. My mother told my brothers though. I am sure she told them the day I got diagnosed. I know my mother, always waving my label around when I was growing up. I dunno if she still does it.

I HATE TALKING ABOUT ANYTHING ABOUT MYSELF FOR ANY REASON WITH A FIERY BURNING FURY.

So, no, not very casual.