Las post for today: Are you a jealous person?

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I am,
what are you lot jealous about?!...

Nothing. Ever.

Though I make a distinction between what I call jealousy and envy.

Envy = I wish I had x that person y has.

Jealousy = Damn person y, that x belongs to me and me alone! He can not have it!

I experience plenty of envy. I have never experienced an ounce of jealousy.

I'm both an envious and a jealous person:

I'm envious of other girls who are more beautiful or artistically talented than I am; the feelings of envy become very strong if the girl is within the same age group as I am.

I become jealous if any of my sisters gets too close (either physically or emotionally) to my mom. I used to feel jealous of my oldest sister, because she lives in a foreign country and my mom would make a big deal about her coming to visit. However, that sister no longer "poses a threat", since my mom doesn't seem too excited over her anymore. I often feel jealous of my other sister because, well... she's extremely jealous of me; and we always subtly compete for our mom's undivided attention. I also felt somewhat jealous of my nephew when he was born, because my mom had to spend a lot of time teaching my sister how to care for him (he was my sister's first child). Now he's 3, and I don't feel threatened by him anymore.

I don't feel competitive with my dad or brother, however, because I realize that the relationships between husband/wife and mother/son pose no risk to my mother/daughter relationship. The only time I get angry with my brother is when he takes my spot on the couch beside my mom.

But, y'know, I've come to realize something that always quells my jealousy: my mom continually drops hints, in both dialog and mannerisms, that she secretly favors me above my siblings. My dad has noticed this also and has commented that, because I am more "helpless" than my siblings in the sense that I am autistic, my mother's instinct to nurture me is more powerful than her instinct to nurture my higher-functioning siblings who are not autistic.

Yes, I would say I am. Especially of people who tend to have more confidence and self assurance which I seriously lack. I used to be very jealous of others who had a lot of friends or guys who had girlfriends, coz I have neither, however over the last few months I've come to accept my isolation, so I don't really feel that way any more.

I understand..
I am a sixteen year old gayboy and I am extremely jealous if others are better looking than me, I had a boyfriend who was eighteen and his life seemed so perfect, no he was going to university and he was confident (which I am not), I find myself thinking about it qwuite alot and resenting him for it, but you have to think to yourself "I could do that if I wanted to and I have attributed that they havn't got" etc.
Good luck to you

I've never experienced neither.

Very rarely do I feel envious - though I guess I do envy the NT's and how easy certain aspects of their lives are that are just very difficult for me.

Jealousy? Hell yeah. Mainly in matters of love - if I've got a crush on a girl, or an ex-girlfriend, etc., I'm insanely jealous if they're with other guys.

I don't get jealous too often. Usually when I would feel jealous about something I set my mind to getting what they have that I want. This is the way it usually went with love/dating type matters anyway.

Things that I can't have that someone else does... I guess it bothers me for a short while but usually I get over it quickly. I don't let those sorts of things get to me.

I'm rarely jealous or envious. Cause I watch a good number of hard-to-watch documentaries about how other people or kids have to overcome things, and while I find them very inspirational, it's also like after watching them you really feel like "What do I have to complain about?" I think it also plays into the strong justice aspect of being Aspie, that you really do want the best for everyone in the world but you know that is impossible. I guess you can be happy that there are people who do have struggles, and that they are loved and getting support.

I don't know, it probably is starting to sound like I'm depressed, and I probably am cause I had a bad Cold recently, and haven't been able to take my anti-depressant. So I'll stop now, lol.

I'd like to say no, but yes, I can be. Just not very much anymore these days... I try to control it. Jealousy has made me do terrible things in the past.

Occasionally I wish I could have what others have, but not to such an extent that I'd rather they not have it so I can.

Perferable I'd wish we could both could have it. But if only one can have it, I'm quite fine with them having it.

I don't think I've ever been jealous or envious in adulthood. Am I normal?

nope, just don't care..

I used to be before I mellowed out.

Stick a lady in the mix and it's a different story.

I used to be but I am not so much anymore... we all have our strengths and weaknesses, gifts and challenges, some may have more and some definitely have less. Remember something else, no one's life is perfect! Even if they "appear" to have more of something than you, they are struggling with something that you will never have to deal with!