Holidays and the increased time around other people?

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For those of you who live with others, how do you find holiday periods and the increased social time around other people? i am just wondering. Usually i spend most of my daytime alone. In holidays, my son and his father are home all the time and this means 24/7 around people for nearly 6 weeks. This is my idea of a nightmare. How do others find it?

I have two sons and a wife, and now we are spending a great deal of time together due to school being out and my wife's vacation. On two occasions so far, my parents have allowed my kids to spend some time with them so that my wife and I could have some time to shop or have dinner out. I don't really mind the kids all the time, but let's face it, everybody together all the time can get taxing. I have also had my chill out time by going to the bedroom alone and working on the computer. I have to have a certain amount of alone time each day.

...Well , I'm pretty lonely...No/few " eaqual status " friends , parents gone , a ret*d brother I haven't physically been in the same room as in over a decade , some relatives who , either , are distant , or , in one case , as I see it , stole from me...

I had a fun time watching Back to the Future movies with my uncle and cousin.

My whole life, I would be playing with my new toys I got for Christmas and as I got older, I'd be off by myself doing what I like to do such as computer or video games.

Yep, "nightmare"...that pretty much covers it.

Day to day I pretty much know what to expect, holidays are a free-for-all, un-planned, anything goes kind of deal...I find myself on edge until it's over with.

I was at a neighbours holidy getogether he does for a few people in the neighbourhood, and when asked how I liked his cheesecake he had made, I was honest, told him it was simple and good, but with an expression on my face (unintentional) that said otherwise. I have a hard time with finding the right facial expression, but if I am not stressed, you will always find I look happy. If I am stressed, I look something else. I also found myself stimming in the form of rubbing his tablecloth which had an amazing texture. I hope noone noticed that! As long as the gathering is small/controlled I am happy, and can handle it for the most part, but when I am ready to climb back into my shell, I just want to leave.

I don't like being outside of my usual enviroment for more than a day to stay at others homes. Too much going on, rules are different, plans changing and you are expected to adjust quickly, brighter lights, accidentally putting something you think is sugar in your coffee only to find out it wasn't real sugar which gives you migraines and you end up nauseous.

Even though yes it's a hassle, I'll go through with it for family even if they don't understand my reactions or how my mind operates.

6 weeks though?? That's too much. Hope they give you some space.

I don't have family near by, so the 4 of us spend it together. With the kids home, it is usually much more stressful, but the kids have been sick, so it is much quieter than usual. My neighbor friend wants to spend some holiday time together and wants to come over to my place(her, her husband, and thier wild 5 year old son).
It is too much. I try to make is as short as possible. As for going out shopping, I avoid it if at all possible, and wait till it is late at night and go to Walmart.