Change of opinion

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Can anyone relate to that?

Non-autistic people change their opinions. And if they do, other people accept and understand the change.

I found that when I change my opinion or gain a better insight in something people are quizzed.

Is there an appropriate way in which you must change your opinion and something? Because I wouldn't know that.

This happened to me recently, for example: If my former friend brings up that I didn't like people when we were 14 years old then he's allowed to freak out and claim I'm making this up at me when I explain it's not like that and explain about my temporary job.

Years ago I wasn't able to communicate much with people. Others said that if you can't get along with people, it's because you don't like them. I had no reason to not believe other people back then. They said I didn't like people, so they must be right. Now I know that I'm autistic and that just makes communication hard.

I made a thread a few weeks back about how others expect you to behave, and think in a certain way. You may differ with me but I think you are trying to express something on a similar line. If I had changed my opinions concerning certain things, and if it was contrary to what others expected, usually a negative vibe would be ommitted. Same went for my behaviour, when I started to voice my opinion and differ with what others said, instead of just accepting it.

I'm not actually diagnosed with anything as yet, but I have become a little better with communication over time. When I was youger I assumed people didn't like me, because they thought I didn't like them. Ofcourse deep down I knew that the reason I'm quiet is not due to me disliking others. As I grew to understand myself better, this notion in me became more substantial.

My opinions tend to be pretty intense (everything I do is intense), so if I change them I can see people being surprised. I think I've learned to explain changes of mind over the years. There's a way of saying it that can make people laugh, at least sometimes.