Corresponding with other members on WP

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Have you corresponded with other members here by PM or any other means? Any comments about the experience?

Also, do you treat other Aspies in correspondence as you'd treat any NT or do you talk differently to them?

I've used PM here.
I don't think I change my style just because I know someone is an Aspie.
Everyone is an individual.

yes. i have pm'ed some people and some have pm'ed me. i always respond to pm's. for me, it is a manners thing...what i expect of myself and a rule i have incorporated into my exchanges with people - AS D or NT.

Some people do not reply to my pm's to them.
I am beginning -through pm's - to find some similar people with whom i share life experience, outlook and views. it is nice. it is good for me.

I speak differently with these people than i do people in normal life (NT's - for want of a better expression...i do not like that expression actually....too homogenous.) Well, let me rephrase that ---- i perhaps do not speak differently - it is just that the exchanges are different -- there is heightened intensity and the kind of exchanges that are more fervent and particular --- unlike some of the pointless and tiring social meanderings of non-ASD people....my exchanges with other AS people FEED my intensity in a way that normal conversation does not. There seems to be more analysis and more meat to the exchanges so to speak.

Last edited by millie on 03 Jan 2009, 4:14 pm, edited 2 times in total.

I don't get much of that in my e-mail. Just family stuff, PTA stuff, people who have something to say, something going on... Now that I think of it, maybe I've driven all the half-wits away. If I figure out how I did it, maybe I'll sell you a bottle. Half-wit repellent, spray or pill form, $10 per ounce.

oh yes. may i purchase some?

millie, you're up extremely early for a Sunday...

hello greentea..nice to speak with you as always. my routine never changes. up at 4.30-5 am every morning. to bed early. i follow the sun. i also get woken by the first birds because of my sensory stuff. it is now 7.45. late for me. been on line a while now. WP, facebook, emails and also made my son breakfast.

oh, I hadn't realized the time difference was so big. I'd love to go to bed early and get up early. I never do, though. I stay at the computer too long.

yes. i like it. a great deal. the early morning is my favourite time of day.

I have talked to plenty of members through PM. Occasionally I will get a PM from someone who lives near Spokane thinking I live there too. I ask them about the movie and the city.

I have PMed several mods when I report but I rarely report members. I mostly ignore the trolls and a**holes. I figured if people are bothered so much by them, they can do the reporting. I don't let them get to me so why make a big deal about it?


I think my replies are different though in PMs. It's hard to explain. People might see the difference when they PM me and talk to me in there compare to what I say on here. Forums are different than PMs and IMs. It's easier to hide your innocence and naivety because you can get other people to read someone's post and have them tell you what that person meant by their question or what they said. It is very embarrassing when I have to ask on IM or in PM what they mean by their question. Also you can ignore threads or posts if you don't understand what you are reading. You aren't forced to read them. In PM it be hard. If they didn't ask you a question, then you don't have to make a reply.

People seem to know I definitely am on the spectrum based on what I say and how I talk. Without the label, they still know something is different. I dunno if they all notice. I once got asked by someone that his wife would like to know why I am so opinionated and blunt. I have been asked by a**holes "What kind of mental disorders do you have?"

I only PMed with, maybe, two people, or three. A real low number and only a couple of times each. I am not that much of a PMer. I don't like the idea of PMing. It gives a false sense of privacy where there is none.

I have PMed or contacted by e-mail or IM a total of probably 40 or 50 members total.

I have met 11 WP members in person.

I have PM'd a few folks but usually don't have much to say except a 'hello' type of thing.

I've PMed a couple of times just to provide information; I don't use niceties or any kind of social communication (have no clue how).

Am exactly the same as with non-autistics.

So in PMs with other WP members, do you apply all the same "rules" that we apply when talking to NTs?

In PMs I'm not aware of applying any rules. I do what comes naturally; simply provide information. Actually, there are some rules I apply, but they all revolve around grammar and paragraph structure.


Greentea: Could you provide some examples of the "rules" you mention people applying when PMing NTs (which I've never happened to have done)?

Most of my emails are for formal situations (and a better alternative to the phone). But the format of the emails is the same whether I'm communicating with family or formally, except with family I sign off with bye rather than a more formal term.