So I finally watched Mozart and Whale today...

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The movie about two people with aspergers syndrome falling in love. Also has other autistics in it as well. I thought it was okay, i ended up getting a headache, and didnt understand much lol.

My bf kept saying that he can defintely tell a difference between autism and aspergers just from that movie, i was like oh yea?
1. He's like seems like people with aspergers only stim when upset, and if they stim during the day nothing really that noticable as somebody with autism.
2. They seem to have more problems socializing then an autistic, mainly because an autistics socializing is just not there, almost like people with aspergers force it to fit in, which makes it seem even more awkward while somebody with autism seem off doing their own thing and only socialize when it suits them and really want to.
3. Hes like people with aspergers also seem to have much more anxiety then somebody with autism which also leads to depression while somebody with autism rather lives in the moment more.
4. Their self help skills are not as extreme as somebody with autism mainly because somebody with autism isn't actually initiating trying to do self help skills such as cooking or taking care of oneself as much so its lack of self help skills while with aspergers its poor self help skills.
5. Their speech can be either too loud, too monotone, unusual, stuttered, stammered, while somebody with autisms speech is either not there, pragmatic, use mainly phrases, short sentences, or use other forms of communicating. And then says I can say why aspergers is a disability but can also see why some people don't see it as real autism.
Hes like, I mean all day you have to have something to rub or your melting down freaking out, have to be doing some sort of stimming, speech is either not there or just very off and confusing, lack of self help skills, only socialize when you really want to, other then that your off doing your own thing even if it means running back and forth giggling and flapping, and as far as I know you don't have any anxiety and don't suffer from depression... I was like great assumptions lol, and walked away haha.

Thats his thoughts on aspergers and autism, i then explained to him, that their are people who have aspergers traits and be autistic, or have aspergers and autistic traits and that is why pddnos is more diagnosed and that is why its a spectrum, no autistic that means aspergers is alike! hes like, yea i know but just picking out bits and pieces from the movie and from what i've seen in real life i made those assumptions, i know its not all entirely right.

Anyways, If you watched the movie what did you think of that movie? and what do you think of what my bf said about aspergers and autism? love to hear everybodys thoughts...

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i liked the movie. i saw it a few years ago and i felt very spooked by the main female character's behaviours. I saw the movie before i even knew what AS was or that it was such a part of me and my life.
even her laugh -the big sudden HAH! that she would let out -that is how i laugh. just a big HAH !

in fact i think that movie was the very beginning of some subtle internal unravelling....And so, i have a fondness for it.

I get the impression that your boyfriend's perception of Asperger's Syndrome has been built totally around Mozart and the Whale and that he has not met many people with Asperger's Syndrome in real life.

I don't think it was really that bad of a movie but I think parts of it were a little overdone. Pesonally for myself until I started attending meetings of the AANE(Aspergers Assocation of New England), I never knew a single other person with Asperger's Syndrome in real life. All my peers were NTs. Do you or your boyfriend go to any Asperger groups in your area?

From what I have read in posts by aspies, aspies can act worse than AS. They claim they can't hold down a job and control their stims. Unless they are worse than AS but they just have that diagnoses.

I could hardly relate to the characters except for their relationship. Isabelle treats Donald like a kid and they don't get along. That was what my first relationship was like. I was always mothering my ex and yelling at him because he acted like a child. When Donald doesn't look at the guy during the interview, that reminded me of me. I have done that to people and talked as I looked away.

I also talk loud and I can be straightforward like Isabelle and I can have great eye contact when I feel comfortable. My voice isn't really monotone but I guess it is sometimes because I have been told it is so I assume it is sometimes. My stims get worse when I am upset, anxious, scared, excited and I stim more when there are people around. When I am by myself I am okay.

I think the movie was good because they made everybody different on the spectrum and it shows how people are effected differently by AS. I think Isabelle was the mildest and perhaps borderline. Lot of people think she was normal and even my aunt thought the same and she works with autistic kids. she knows I have AS and has never denied it. She has seen me as a kid and now I am very mild. She probably knows how much I have improved over the years and barely show it now. So I didn't take her Isabelle comment personally. If she didn't think I had it, she would have treated me different but her being cautious about my condition did get on my nerves but I stayed friendly about it than getting pissy because I knew she was just trying to be cautious. I think I started a thread about it once but I can't remember if I did or not. It might be under likedcalico if I did. I felt she was treating me like a child who hasn't learned to cope with the condition.