Casual conversation

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How is it that many NTs can talk about a whole bunch of different subjects without boring each other to death? I tend to talk more about worries/problems or important events in my life than trivial BS. I would be more social if I wasn't so afraid of putting my listener(s) to sleep or irritating them.

Humore them; we're outnumbered anyway...

A lot of this conversation (IMHO) is just adjusting to each other, establishing boundaries, feeling each other out, etc. I just keep them talking, it's much less stessfull that way..

i'm exactly the same way, although it might have to do with i've had problems my entire life so that is all i know

i think it would be easier to talk to people if i had fun stories to tell, like i was with some friends and we did some fun stuff that kind of thing

not, i was in a mental hospital and i got negative points on my point card, and then i was restrained and taken to the rubber room, and after they gave crazy pills, blah blah wah wah

From what I understand, for most NTs, it's the form that's important--the back and forth, the enjoyment of each other's company--rather than the content. My husband, who is very intelligent and likes to have a focused discussion as much as I do, also says that when someone stops by, it doesn't really matter what they talk about. If he likes the person, he just enjoys the time spent.

For Aspies, it's the content that counts. For me, content is nearly everything. Even if I'm just joking around with people at work, I'm paying attention to my words so that I get the right meaning across.

To me, there is nothing casual about conversation. I'm just not a casual person. I tend to be pretty serious a lot of the time. I think that's why I developed a good sense of humor--I had to have something to relieve the stress.