Is it possible for us to 'develop' a sense of humor?

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I would like to 'learn' to be funny, but I think I'm being ridiculous. Isn't humor a 'gift' at which we aspies are generally disadvantaged?

I'm funny. It comes natural; playing with others and their words, making them laugh and laughing about myself. No idea how people learn this. Not saying they cannot, but I have no idea how.

in my view, autism is largely related with distance between that autistic self and the (social) world that is 'other'

distance is generally regarded as a basic quality of any humour,
it is certainly at the heart fo all matters irony

auties will have a propensity for irony,
which is very easily done toward any other, and easily gets misunderstood

rule 1: not everyone will get it, and feel offended
rule 2: apply tongue-in-cheek self-mockery, self-irony

psychologically, this is a risky road, because it does innvolve a certain measure of self-denial: [do not allow for scepticism, cynicism or sarcasm towards yourself!! !]

however: showing you can laugh at yourself, and make jokes at your own expense, creates a situation of all sorts of possibilities: you prevent them from making jokes at you (done&gotTshirt,thx); it also creates cedit: it builds a certain amount of goodwill as to you making fun of them

there are many other results, however: these alone will suffice for now

voice Steve Harley:
"my only vice is the fantastic pri-
ces i charge for being eaten alive"

i have a pretty good sense of humor. It leans towards the surreal side.

My sense of humor is there but it may be somewhat "offbeat"

From experiance, I think its possible to for aspies to develop a sense of humor.
I used think it was impossible for me to have a sense of humor because I was so serious. Within the last couple years I've developed a sense of humor, though hugely impart when I met my best friend which lead me to seeing a new side of myself. For me its saying a lot of offbeat, blunt, random things that you wouldnt find coming out of other peoples mouths.

well of course it is possible. i have read some really funny stuff her on WP from ASD people. really funny.
i have a sense of humour. i can do mimicry which as a child had people in stitches - mainly my immediate family saw that.

what i do however know about me is i get a certain type of humour. i have a terrible time with comprehending jokes verbally -- i am terrible at it. really terrible. i am the one sitting there and everyone else is laughing and i just have to ask for it to be explained.
i get bent humour - off beat stuff.
not really mainstream......

I'm fairly good at humour, and I use it a lot because it's pretty much the only time in which I can be reasonably comfortable with any form of social interaction. It's much easier to 'read' people when the only thing you have to look for is "are they laughing, yes/no?", and not have to worry about any of the other complexities. I've always found it a very useful thing to hide behind, I figure people are probably less likely to notice how crap I am at conversation if I can distract them by saying a few amusing things. Of course, whether that's true or not, I have no way of knowing.

I teased when I was little but developed a sense of humor as I got older. I can do my own humor now.

I have a good sense humour and can make alot of people laugh. I have always been able to. Caterogising AS people as not having a sense of humour does not make sense to me. Unless you mean not understanding humour as taking things literally.

I have a sense of humor but it's not one suitable for everyone. Anything absurd or shockingly twisted makes me laugh.

I recently joked with my father that the best solution to the economic recession would be to randomly kill off one third of the population in order to create more job openings. You can see why most of the stuff I find funny I keep to myself.

A sense of humor is just being able to laugh to find things humorous.

Do you laugh at all? If yes you have a sense of humor.

To make others laugh, you remember what others have said that make you laugh and repeat it hoping others will laugh. This happens a lot in casual conversation remembering movies, past events, pop culture... what have you.

Or you can find funny occurrences or connections that pop into your head and try to relate these to other people. This is where the true funny is, since you are creating it in your own head and not regurgitating others humor back to them. If while reading some word combination strikes you as funny, keep track of it. If some word has a double meaning that you find funny, keep track of that.

Once you have the funny idea, then comes the craft part. This is refining the presentation. This is the hard part... especially for those with AS... you have to find the best way to convey this funny idea to people. But don't worry about this if all you want is know is if you have a sense of humor. If you laugh, you have a sense of humor... don't worry about it.

My similar sense of humour caused more trouble than it benefited my - My humour is often too "black" (a typical situation when a friend of mine had a cough and I told him that he shall not be worried, his recently died mother made the same kind of caugh and so far I know her death was quite peaceful ...) or too absurd when I suggested in company that instead of writing Christmas-Card manually we should construct a machine, which writes the card, put into envelopes, adds the address and stamp and put the cards directly into a shredder, the place where those will end up anyway ... I shouldn't seen this idea via e-mail to <all>.

So I learned the hard way to keep my ideas mostly by myself and try to smile about the lame and harmless jokes of others.

Different humour maybe?

I think some aspies have a wicked sense of humour.

For me. Will my humor has be accused of breaking minds. This even comes from my fellow animation students who tend to be off beat anyway. I love pratfalls and fart jokes. I also like twisting peoples logic. Then there is some people in animation that are more twisted then I am. What I find funny to is planting thoughts in peoples minds that have a strung mental images.

I believe that it's possible to develop any skill, if you want it bad enough. Sure there are some exceptions, but for the most part, it's true. It just depends on how much effort you want to put into it.