Aspies in denial

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Has anyone here ever met anyone online or in real life who you suspect might be aspie but they were in denial because they said they didn't have it and listing their excuses why such as they are too busy to have friends or they aren't interested?


I think one of my online friends might have it but I am not sure because I don't know enough symptoms he has to know if he has it or not. But he sure gives reasons why; too busy for friends, no time for them, they are working when he isn't working, he's working when they aren't working, and "everyone has obsessions." His excuses why he doesn't have friends and why he has obsessions.

Okay I am in denial of my own condition too sometimes because I also have all these excuses for myself.

I've only ever known one.

Me for six years.

So why do you come here?

Simple. I recently realized that I indeed do have Asperger's.

I'm sort of in denial too, my doc says AS but I insist on BAP (although I'm not sure if I don't do it just to oppose the doctor... whatever :p)

One of my friends is a Aspie (he has been officially diagnosed) but he suddenly is saying that he dosent have it anymore, he seems to think that if he acts NT then he is one.

What is BAP?

Black American Princess.

I have come across some who could be Aspies, but then again, I don't usually ask.

Same.

I think the boy who sits next to me in French class may be an aspie. He rarely talks to people, which is why my ex-friend broke up with him when she went out with him for about five minutes two years ago. Which I think was a bit unfair. Not everyone feels the need to validate their existence with meaningless chatter.

lol I wish

it stands for Broader Autism Phenotype

Yes.

Me and large cross-sections of my family for over 10 years.

Sometimes I really was to busy and "snowed under" with work.
I thought that was a pretty good excuse: didn't help me to socialise though.

To do a good job, I had to put in the extra time, the obligatory commute to one of my colleges took so much time out of the day. Also, I didn't live where most of the other folks lived, so it was basically inconvenient, which was a pretty good excuse. Had I lived more locally, perhaps I would have gotten to know more people, who knows. The socialising issues were still there, but the length of the journey and the intense work schedule just exacerbated them. I remember lots of people being told not to take summer jobs because we'd worked that hard: yes, it really was that bad.

I've never "have" had anything.
I am an AS person.
People saying that I have AS mistakenly assumes that the condition can be cured or got rid of like an illness.
That's why I can say that I for instance "have" the flu or "have" a stomach ache because they are infections.
Saying that I "have" AS is nonsense in the same way that someone saying that they "have Christianess", "have colourblindess" or "have gayness". People are Christian, are colourblind or are gay, they don't by definition "have" anything at all: they are themselves.

I am myself.
I accept that my way of perceiving things may be different from the norm.
I just feel that something that's all pervasive/genetic and affects one's every waking experience/beliefs/perceptions such as AS can't be "had" by definition if it's one's personality.

This is my take on the whole thing.
I'm not in denial about my mental processing operating system.
I am, however, in denial about being labeled as "disordered" because I'm a conscientious and helpful person. I hope this makes sense.

My very ASish friend. He isn't exactly in denial. He says that he gets to continue pretending that he isn't one...But he does acknowledge that he has a whole bunch of traits...You just won't ever see him sitting around and talking about them with the other Aspies at my weekly cookout where all the Aspies show up.

a large majority of aspies in denial were conditioned by parents and psychologists to think as was a bad thing when its not...there's always a reason behind everything.

One of my good friends on aol is an aspie but used to sorta deiny it...till she got diagnossed.

I don't think I could EVER deney being an aspie, diagnosed or not...it's practicly my overall identity now. @-@ Yeah yeah too harsh I know. meh

One of my good friends on aol is an aspie but used to sorta deiny it...till she got diagnossed.

I don't think I could EVER deney being an aspie, diagnosed or not...it's practicly my overall identity now. @-@ Yeah yeah too harsh I know. meh