Aspies Teaching Auties?

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I was just wondering if any Auties and Aspies had experiences with understanding and maybe attempts at reciprocity with each other that they knew about in childhood. Do parents of Auties observe that the child is seeking others like them? I was about ten, and my baby sister's day care provider had an Autistic son. He came up to me and very gently touched my arm, and took a liking to me personally, almost right away. His mother's jaw dropped and she couldn't believe that he had shown that kind of comfort around a stranger. I now think that he identified with me being different, that he could understand that I was. He used to try to pull me over to his puzzles to help him, and get me to play with him, but he couldn't really speak. He just really liked me, a lot. They had never seen anything like it before.

Right, that's another way to say it. This may be a leap, but I felt like he thought he was going to be able to talk to me - like it would just happen. So, he was excited about being around me, like he was going to show everyone that he had a friend, and that he was going to talk to me like everybody else did with each other, and that I would understand him better than everyone else, but he didn't just jump right out of his routine and expect me to do everything for him that his mom did. He had issues with me helping him do things in his routine.

I have gotten unusual responses from autistic kids...and normal kids alike.
I would love the chance to try to work with them one day.

If you displayed a neutral appearance (no overt body language, you were quiet and kept to yourself, avoided eye contact, etcetera), you'll provide a less threatening appearance, which will allow the individual who is frightened to step outside his or her shell to attempt to interact with you (as the world is so overwhelming). Higher-functioning individuals tend to do this (children with AS included).

This same appearance can offer the aloof individual an interesting axiom for him or her, as you act different to most people, and he or she may just notice you. Lower-functioning individuals tend to be oblivious to many things except their "repetitive behaviours", but certain things/people may engage them.

I've been both, and even though I can't remember the aloof years, I have words from my mother.