A girl I like...

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I like this one girl in one of my university classes, and it seems she has some interest in me, but I am not really sure what kind of interest she has in me, or if there even is some. Basicly it seems as if she goes out of her way to talk to me, and is very kind when she is doing so. Also, I told her about my AS, and she still goes out of her way to say hello and be kind. Thoughts?

Just try not to make an arse of yourself.

Hmmm ....

I say take it slow. She's in your class, she isn't going to disappear anytime soon. Do little things like suggest coffee after class, and see if she seems to want to do that. See what happens if you allow yourself time to get comfortable with her, and to know her, in a graduated and comfortable manner that is never pushy.

Coming off as weird is one thing. Coming off as a right c**t is another. As long as you can tell the difference between the two you can't go too wrong.

She's also got an amazing name, and I am someone who is really into names. Whether it be the name of a person place or thing, I enjoy neat names. One of my favourites is Maiyana, followed by a whole bunch of others.

Anyways, back on topic... I will try to say something to her... But that is really hard for me, any time I have done so, I have pushed people away.

Good luck.

Don't try to pretend. Just be yourself, because in the end that's all you really are.
Some people will like you and some people won't, that's how it goes, but at least this way you don't have to wonder if they'd like the "real" you.

The pushing away generally happened because I didn't know how to act socially.

You two like one another, that is like 60% of the battle! If she KNOWS about your AS, that is like another 20%, and you are ON YOUR WAY! LUCKY! Ask her out to some place she likes, or for food she likes. Try to see if you have a common interest, and just try to build on that friendship.

My MAIN problem has been that first part. My NEXT biggest problem is acting in an AS manner. Of course, moving and all didn't help me go any farther. Of course, sometimes people DO take a liking to me, etc... and they end up looking at me more like a brother than anything else. THAT I can't help you with.

First I must say 'awww'. Ok that's done. I'm just so happy for you.

I agree that you should find out about common interests and if she's around your age there is usually something the two of you have in common. I usually talk to people about music.
Ask her if you want to have lunch together, if you're not already.
The social thing is a bit hard, especially around someone you like. Read up about current events and look up some socializing tips sites.
Just be friends with her and spend some time getting to know her and soon enough you'll know how she feels.

I don't actually know if she likes me, I may be reading social cues wrong again. All I know is that I think she has some interest in me, and I am not quite sure what kind of interest even. I will talk to her the next time we have class though and see what she thinks, maybe get her msn if I can. I also know that I often come across as not having feelings for anyone, as I often don't know how to express my feelings. I will do what I can and see how it goes from there though.