Guys, how do you act around girls/women you like? PLS ANSWER

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Let's say you see a girl at a party(or in class, at the gym etc -so you get the chance to see her a couple times) ..you don't know her very well but are attracted to her. Assume she's very social and confident (life of the party type). Also, most importantly, let's say she has absolutely NO INTEREST in your hobbies/focused interests (but you are attracted to her).

How do you act around her? Do you think you remain self-absorbed or are making an effort to reach her? Do you ignore her, look at her, attempt to attract her attention, smile at her..what? How do you think you usually signal/show your interest for a girl(consciously or not)????? PLEASE tell me

If she's attractive, keep a good 6 metre (20 foot) distance between the two of us.

Withdrawn, uncomfortable, anxious, and painfully shy, like I do everyone. Not much of a turn on, I know, but feigning confidence, self-esteem, and sociability has always backfired on me.

Sure. There's been plenty of women I have been attracted to, and been utterly clueless as to how to approach. That's been the rule, more or less.

I ignore her, and look at her, and maybe even venture a smile or nod if I am loose on my inhibitions.

In the worst possible way. In a figurative sense, I am the wallflower who watches the party going on, wishing I could be a part of it. I see a woman that I like, and I want to show her. I will probably end up staring, but never saying anything, which makes me seem far too much like a creepy stalker.

If, somehow, she is desperate enough to overlook all of my social miscues and approach ME, then I am, of course, paralyzed in fear. If she manages to overcome that, and we can find a topic of conversation or shared activity suitable to us both, then perhaps we might even be able to get to know each other and just possibly maybe form a relationship.

It's not impossible. I mean, lord... I have a son. But these difficulties have been the story of nearly all of my interactions with women.

Going to get a lot of off the wall comments no doubt, but on a personal note the life of the party - wouldn't be a girl I'd see at all... I'd find her foolish and ignore her. If your question pertained to a girl I liked - I'd walk up and tell her I was interested... then hope she doesn't ask too many questions, lol.

Same here. (referring to acacia) I think I creeped a woman out across the lunchroom last year. Her unusual hairstyle got my attention. I just wanted to look, and I had no interest in actually approaching her.

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Really uncomfortable, then of course I will misconstrue the social signals and either get slapped or she will walk away because she thinks I have rejected her

for me that'd probably be 1-2 meters (3-6.5 feet)



Might do both. Currently tending towards the 'remain self-absorbed' side..



oh f**k no....



uncounciously, I might look at her longer or more often...

No wonder it's so hard to get the nice guys.

you're female...APPROACH HIM..

I smile, and try to engage the woman in talking about a common interest, as long as it's not too trivial or too esoteric.

i'm rubbish with girls i really like. i reckon the best technique for the scenario shown by the OP is to approach the girl / guy's friend (s), and get introduced by them. or get your friend to talk to the girl / guy in question.

I'm shy.

Once a friend tried to hook me up with this shy guy and we both just sat there, looking at our shoes. I tried to come up with things to say but my friend pulled me away from him.

i find that shy people gell best with the outgoing. both parties get to do what they're most comfortable with - listening and speaking, respectively

ahh....as others said use the opposite idea; outgoing people...

"I shiver, I get bitter, there's no way that I know you would understand."

I heard this song called 'shiver' on the radio, it was very popular at the time and it played constantly, and when I heard those words I thought 'hey, thats I act/feel around this girl I really like'. I don't know why though. I wish I hadn't

I'm shy at first but once I start there is no stopping and they wish they never meet me I run rings around them.
Most of my boyfriends have been high energy other wise they can't cope with me.