EYE CONTACT: It Differes From Day To Day...

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...Anyone else experiance it? I mean - sometimes I have problems with my eye contact and sometimes I don't. There are times that I don't make any eye contact ( I stare at the floor, mostly) or it's fleeting; and the other times I tend to stare at others... Is it just me, or is it quite common?

I can make good eye contact when I am feeling comfortable.

Yes. My confidence levels can vary greatly from day to day, and it directly effects my eye contact duration. If you were to talk to me on a day when I was at one extreme, and then the other(on another day), you might think I was two different people, if you didn't know me well.

I am usually very good with eye contact, I do look to the side, or down when speaking occasionally, but that is more so to make it appear I'm not STARING or GLARING. I can't look at my parents eyes for longer than a few seconds or it makes me uncomfortable.

Yeh, I think it indeed might be the cause of my eye contact variations... Feeling comfortable or feeling stressed...

Oh well, I just can't tell; loads of things happen in me and around me and I am just sometimes unable to link them somehow together...

I'm sure some days it's better than others, but eye contact is always extremely hard for me. Even with family and my closest friends.

It varies a lot for me too. Sometimes when I was young I would stare at people if I wanted them to go away. I couldn't understand why it didn't work - to me it felt like such an aggressive thing to do.

In Spain where I live, even more eye contact is expected than when I was growing up in the UK. Some days, especially when I have PMS and am tense anyway, I can't manage it. I have 2 ways of dealing with this - one is to always wear my running shoes so I have an excuse to just wave and say 'later' when people greet me, the other is to take my dog. It's amazing how few people will interrupt me when I'm talking to my dog in whichever language they don't speak.

The chap who diagnosed me remarked, about an hour into the session when I felt quite relaxed - 'your eye contact got much better in the last 10 mins'. Of course then I lost it completely. That was when I knew I was going to get a positive diagnosis.

Eyeball to eyeball topic

I look at a person's eyes if I am staring at an interesting feature in them. I know of the four second rule--but sometimes an eye is fascinating so that I hyperfocus on that.

ReGiFroFoLa's experience is interesting. In my case, though, I think it is just a staring thing, not eye contact.

depends on my mood and my, I guess, confidence level. more of a self worth level than confidence i guess.

I didn't know there was a four-second rule. I would expect a safe maximum to be more like two seconds.

I don't usually have a problem making eye contact if I think of it. I usually just don't feel the need to do it, even though I know I'm supposed to. Sometimes, though, it's hard to force myself to look at people's eyes, and I avoid it..

I couldn't make eye contact with anyone, at all, til I was in my mid-teens. These days it varies, by situation and by person. Usually I can manage to at least fake it, but depending on my stress levels, it's easier or harder to do.

Yes. I make good eye contact sometimes. I have worked really really hard at it.

Every time I accidentally make eye contact, I end up thinking...ooh...wow...I must be neurotypical after all.....(just kidding).....(sort of)....

I know I need to work harder at it, but it is so stinking hard. The people I spend the most time with don't make eye contact either, so we blissfully go around not making eye contact with one-another.
It is easy to forget that anyone thinks that it is important.
I can make it happen sometimes though.