Problems controlling strong emotions?

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Do you have problems controlling strong emotions?
Yes 55%  55%  [ 22 ]
No 10%  10%  [ 4 ]
Not all the time, but more often then is usual 23%  23%  [ 9 ]
I'm not sure 13%  13%  [ 5 ]
Total votes : 40

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05 Feb 2009, 7:48 pm

I've seen this mentioned here and there but I'm curious how widespread it is. I voted yes.


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05 Feb 2009, 7:52 pm

Yes, I can meltdown fairly easily. My psychologist now has me doing meditation to stop it.



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05 Feb 2009, 7:57 pm

I don't know how to control my emotions other than shutting down. But apperently I shouldn't do that either lol.

I used to be able to turn certain emotions off when I wanted. These days they're all tied to one switch together.

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05 Feb 2009, 7:58 pm

pensieve wrote:
Yes, I can meltdown fairly easily. My psychologist now has me doing meditation to stop it.

What kind of medication? The only thing that helps me is illegal. If there's a decent legal alternative, I might consider it.


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05 Feb 2009, 8:00 pm

Yeah, definitely, SSRI's were effective in controlling this issue, too effective (numbing), I've considered and read about meditation but never really tried consistently, maybe it could be worth trying for real.



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05 Feb 2009, 8:20 pm

kalantir wrote:
pensieve wrote:
Yes, I can meltdown fairly easily. My psychologist now has me doing meditation to stop it.

What kind of medication? The only thing that helps me is illegal. If there's a decent legal alternative, I might consider it.


It's called mindfulness meditation. I've only started it today but I feel good.
http://www.shambhalasun.com/index.php?o ... ew&id=2125



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05 Feb 2009, 8:26 pm

I don't get strong emotions :(


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05 Feb 2009, 8:29 pm

Yeah, you could say that. It seems any emotion with a deep enough hook will reel me in quicker than a pro fisherman. And Its like i can see it happening for a moment and then Im blind. I get engulfed in a tsunami of feelings. Rage has to be the worst, but love can be just as bad, sorrow takes longer to set in but can last as long as love in some cases(R.I.P. Dad :cry: ).

Im not one for the fringe emotions like jealousy, envy, and greed. I mean, I want what others have or at least more than what i have, like most. But I dont go out of my way to fulfill those emotions like I do for rage, sorrow and love. Those 3 can turn my world upside down in a matter of moments. I'm the nicest person until someone pushes the wrong button. And then It doesnt take long to escalate.

I want to clarify though that Im not just on the spectrum, Im also ptsd. So that could be the reason for the "rage". Havent figured it out yet.

And there doesnt seem to be much to keep them under control other than ungodly amounts of will power. The desire NOT to make an ass out of myself(which seems almost impossible at times), is more powerful than any drug. In fact, legal or illegal, both do little but put more time between the outbreaks, and they just get worse for me. Its almost as if I need them to balance out who I am.



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05 Feb 2009, 8:34 pm

I still have strong emotions for my dad that passed away too.



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05 Feb 2009, 8:35 pm

pensieve wrote:
kalantir wrote:
pensieve wrote:
Yes, I can meltdown fairly easily. My psychologist now has me doing meditation to stop it.

What kind of medication? The only thing that helps me is illegal. If there's a decent legal alternative, I might consider it.


It's called mindfulness meditation. I've only started it today but I feel good.
http://www.shambhalasun.com/index.php?o ... ew&id=2125


Oooh... I misread. I thought you had said medication. I've tried at least a dozen forms of meditation before without too much success, but Ill definately look into that. I'm very open minded when it comes to things that can potentially make me feel better.


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05 Feb 2009, 8:42 pm

Im sorry pensieve, I wish no one had to know that pain. Its hard to stomach, let alone carry for the rest of life. but if religion has any sense of truth, we'll all get to reunite in a better place. Only time will tell...



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05 Feb 2009, 8:58 pm

I rarely act out / meltdown from strong emotions, but I can't just let those feelings go.

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05 Feb 2009, 8:59 pm

Anger is the worst for me. I honestly don't feel other emotions anywhere near as strongly as I can feel anger. When I was in 1st grade, I got expelled for attacking my teacher. It was more then that though. I'd knock over my desk, throw my chair across the room, lock myself in the bathroom, and more... all on a regular basis. I still think that teacher was a b***h. I never had problems like that at school ever again. I also have an immense amount of trouble letting things go, which makes it easy for my anger to build up. I still feel anger to this day about stupid crap that happened in some of my earliest memories(when I was 3-4 years old). I know its irrational, but for some reason, that angry part of my brain doesn't care. Is anyone else able to relate? Or am I just weird?


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05 Feb 2009, 9:36 pm

I voted "Not all the time, but more often then is usual". Not quite accurate, but it's the closest of the choices. I used to have a lot of trouble. Now I don't so much.



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05 Feb 2009, 9:45 pm

I feel ya kalantir, I have anger aimed at my brother thats 15 years old by now. At people who treated me the way they did. I do my best to get around it but it comes to the surface now again



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05 Feb 2009, 10:01 pm

kalantir wrote:
Anger is the worst for me. I honestly don't feel other emotions anywhere near as strongly as I can feel anger. When I was in 1st grade, I got expelled for attacking my teacher. It was more then that though. I'd knock over my desk, throw my chair across the room, lock myself in the bathroom, and more... all on a regular basis. I still think that teacher was a b***h. I never had problems like that at school ever again. I also have an immense amount of trouble letting things go, which makes it easy for my anger to build up. I still feel anger to this day about stupid crap that happened in some of my earliest memories(when I was 3-4 years old). I know its irrational, but for some reason, that angry part of my brain doesn't care. Is anyone else able to relate? Or am I just weird?

I can relate. I can't control my anger. The reason? To be completely frank I have no desire to control it, at least not in the moment.

The more thoughts of 'I should calm down' enter my head the angrier I get. It's like the 'I should calm down' voice is not coming from me but from someone else. I want to defy that voice because it belittles me. It attempts to invalidate my anger. I want to show my anger because I want whoever made me angry to see how I strongly I feel my rage directed at them.

Usually the only thing that stops me is fear of consequences. Fear is the only emotion more powerful than anger.