I think all NT's in general just burn me...

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...in that, when I'm out in public, I'm just afraid of running into people, period, for fear of getting offended at some behavior of theirs that isn't intended to be offensive.

This is especially true of people that I brand as 'redneck hicks', just by their looks. Which isn't too far off, as my neighboring town of Sanford (or Skankford as I call it) has just about the highest welfare rate in Maine, as well as being the former highest teenage pregnancy rate in the United States(!)

Take 3 months ago, for example...I had finished doing some shopping, but hadn't checked out yet, and was browsing some of the magazines in that specific isle. Now, as usual, my mind wanders a bit...then, some crew-cutted, mustachioed f**ker PUTS HIS HANDS ON MY CART AND moves it aside a foot! True, he did say as he was doing it, "Could you please move your cart?", but he could've waited for me to move it, instead of putting his ****ing hands on my cart! and you know what magazine he went for? The HUNTING magazines, labeling him in my mind to be automatic redneck scum! I was so pissed, that I just left my cart where it was, and walked out of the store without buying anything, even though I was hurting for drinks.

And just mere hours ago, even though it didn't quite involve a redneck, an incident happened in that same store when I shopped tonight. This time, it looked to me to be an uneducated Skankfordite, waiting in the checkout line with his 6 year old daughter. I was standing in line behind him, hoping "Please kid, don't act up or anything", because no matter where I shop, there's always ONE time when a parent has to silence or shush their kids. Well, it wasn't so much acting up...in fact, I don't think she was bothering anybody...she was just merely chinning herself up to be eye-level with the conveyor belt. But that father...he put his hands on her and dragged her away with some force, and gave her a bad look....and that really BURNED ME! I gave him a bad look in return, and actually turned my cart around and had one shopper back up so that I could leave the aisle, and go to another one, albeit slower.

Do I really despise NT people that much? Frankly, I think so. It's like, if their logic and thinking doesn't match mine, then they're likely to make me mad, so I want to avoid them at all costs.

I make no apologies for my remarks about labeling people I don't even know. After all, if they want to refer to the growth of Autistic people as an 'epidemic', then they won't expect any mercy from me in return.

*sighs* Comments welcome as always.

Usagi1992

I agree. I don't like interacting with people for this reason. It does seem to be more common from less educated people. Maybe they just hate themselves.

And all this time I thought Southerners had a monopoly on the franchise...

A simple 'excuse me' (with frosting on it) will work with the more well-behaved people. I don't know from Maine (only person I knew from there was from Lewiston, and he didn't impress me..,
but many rednecks are usually brought up to at least fake respecting women.

For the cretins and idiots out there (as we say 'the Good Lord loves idiots, he made so many of them"..., you just have to keep a weather eye out for them, and let them do their 'drunkard's walk' best opposite you. I'm always plotting critical paths in the shopping cart, because it keeps my mind occupied in an otherwise mindless activity, and also to avoid having to deal with them in the first place.

I am ADHD and I have moved other peoples cart without permission, just a little so I can get through. I am impulsive and have a difficult time waiting. My husband, though, would never ever move someones cart (I am sure he is Aspergers). He would politely wait and wait and wait, forever. I guess for me it's easier to move the cart just a little (not a foot) than bother a person while they are shopping. That guy, however, seems like a complete jerk. If he was like that, I am sure a lot of NT's would have been offended as well.

Do you really think all of them are NT's???

That second person would have upset me as well.

I guess the biggest thing I want to say is that not everybody that "looks" NT are really NT.

What other things "burn" you? I am so curious. I do agree with Pobodys nerfect (Love that name!!).

Pakled - my husband does the same thing!! Costco is the WORST. We avoid going there as much as possible because you can't really plot a good path as someone is always cutting in front of you or talking in the middle of the aisle while you are trying to maneuver. Now that really gets to both of us.

I totally agree. NTs tend to be complete idiots. I just don't understand their way of thinking.

To OP -
I hope your next experience at the store is a more positive one. Perhaps if you go earlier in the morning, you won't get those type of people. I don't know. Where in the heck do you live? Oh....Maine. I had a friend that moved there a year ago. She said it's very different there. She is originally from Arizona.

i love your story of stalking out of a supermarket cos someone annoyed you a tiny bit! i do it all the time!!
yestoday i walked out muttering after spending 20 minutes to choose two things for lunch, because the assistant couldnt process my credit card cos she put in the reader wrong, several times!!
i had a panic attack because of the EU in one supermarket over bananas!! ! (the EU parliament, whom we cannot elect or unelect= fascism. i can go on for hours about this topic) said the UK had to start suing european METRIC measures, not our own pounds and ounces. i couldnt work out how much it was £ for lb for some stupid bananas (it didnt matter, either, but i failed to realise that at the time), and started hyperventillating, crying etc. its funny now.
im always walking out in supermarkets- its just a cnocentrated version of life,with weird rules.

but i think if the world were peopled with only other aspies, we'd still get annoyed. i often push other people's shopping trollys out the way after giving them 1 second to move it, because im so impatient, and expect them to be super considerate of me...

i could've been that man, thinking who IS this idiot girl, being so selfish, leaving her trolly at such an unhelpful angle, blocking this shelf, how dare she etc.