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Do aspies get bullied.

I did a bit. But being female it was more emotional than physical and only from about three different people, two of which called me "friend".

All the time, and even by people who only mean to be extra persuasive.
It's hard to tell, because even the most violent of bullies believes he has the right to do what he is doing. And some forms of violence, as above, don't involve physical injury.

I was lucky to never have two bullies at once though. And the rest of my class was usually fairly nice to me. I was lucky going not only to a private school where the teachers watched the students like hawks, but with the particular and very accomodating, understanding classmates I had. We were highly competitive (in a good way) and intelligence and academic achievement were highly valued, so I was rarely mistreated except by those few people. Most people seemed to admire me as being "the artist" or "the poet" and most of the teachers really liked me, too.

Plus, by 7th grade I had made friends which a group of boys who were more understanding since I was the "girl of the group". They were some of my best friends in grade school. I stayed friends with a couple of them into high school, too.

I was very lucky. I probably would have been slaughtered in public school.

Anyone can get bullied,but it is especially common against those who are different from the usual crowd,
whether the difference be Autistic traits,non majority race,or someone who is believed to come under the mosher,emo or goth steriotype.

In truth, bullies are not weeding out the weakest, most abysmal members of society, only those who outwardly look that way to them.

I've never been physically bullied, but I've had more than my fair share of verbal bullying, the height of which came during my junior year of high school. Of course, I have to admit that sometimes I kinda brought it on myself by a)being passive and weak, and b) making pathetic attempts to fit in and be "cool"..

I was bullied a lot as an Aspie throughout my school years. I spent a lot of my recesses wandering around the playground by myself, repeating what the principal would say at assemblies. For that, and also because I was overweight, I was a prime target for bullying. At camp one year, I got bullied for my tendency towards solitary play. I got bullied less as I got older.

I was lucky enough to have a bunch of fellow peers voluntarily stick up for me and reinforce my self-esteem, claiming that I was a cool kid. But clearly, I wasn't.

I encountered teasing throughout school. But 6th and 7th grade were, by far, the worst as the whole student body came down on me for just existing. I couldn't find the right words to defend myself and my skinny body wouldn't allow getting physically violent so I just took their crap. After no one, including teachers, would stick up for me, I concluded there was no one in my corner so I tried to appear as inconspicuous as possible to get through the school day. Eventually, I stopped caring if I ever made friends at all and just wanted everybody to forget I existed.

At home, it wasn't much different. My mother treated me in ways she would never treat my siblings because...well, she could. She was verbally abusive toward me and would call me "stupid", "crazy" and everything I did was "wrong". My younger siblings could destroy my belongings, misbehave and do whatever the heck they wanted if I was the one they were doing it to. If I were to do the same, I'd get punished since their feelings actually mattered.

When I refused to leave my church, my father threatened to kick me out while he was finally letting me stay with him at age 20. I stood up for myself for the first time in my life and told him I'd never leave my church and he was going to keep his initial promise that I didn't have to go to his Jehovah's Witness meetings. He summariously disowned me and kicked me out of his house so I learned, from then on, if I ever stood up for myself, it wouldn't make any difference and afterwards, let people run over me years into adult-hood.

This lead to me being fair game for co-workers and bosses when they mistreated me because I was so afraid of losing my job, therefore my livelihood. Of course, they also bullied me.....because they could. I wish, sometimes, I could go back in time with what I know now and stand up for myself to everyone who bullied me. I understand it wasn't my fault but I still feel like a loser for not stopping it myself.

What are these?

For some reason, even though I was never the largest or the strongest, people knew not to get me angry. I guess maybe I got some kind of maniacal look in my eye that made them suddenly fear me, perhaps believing I would stop at nothing once enraged.

It was quite funny actually. I could physically intimidate the bully and they'd just run away. I rarely got my hands on anyone, which was another good thing since school didn't look fondly on violence, but the bully acted as though I'd just beaten the crap outta them the week before or something.

I wear eyeglasses and was a skinny kid. No one had any problem hitting me or in one case spitting on me.
Bad part was, they knew they could get away with it by telling the nuns I did something first, which they were more likely to believe because the brown kid automatically was the bad one.

Lots and lots and lots. I was always the least popular kid in the year. Not too much physical, but loads emotional. I would be here all night if I tried to write it out.

Mosher=people who like and mosh to punk,metal etc,bullies wrongly assume they can see a spot a "mosher" from their clothing and long length of hair though.

Emo=people who listen to certain emotive,dark bands,such as My Chemical Romance,they are generally steriotyped as being depressed,into wrist cutting,bullies also use this steriotype as an insult.

Goth/gothic=a dark culture which includes certain 'heavy' music and fashion,people often ostracise people who follow gothic culture because of the way they dress,they might wear white foundation,a spikey dog collar and spikey wrist bracelet things,big boots with rows of buckles going up the sides of them,black clothing..
People often automatically assume goths are satanists.


Not sure if these steriotypes are as widely experienced outside the UK?,but they can be quite badly bullied,all on the basis that they're looking different to the bully,pathetic isn't it?

I was definatly an "outcast" throughout all my school years. So were all those I considered my "friends", which included the principal's son (unpopular for obvious reasons), a dude who looked like a 3rd grader in juinor high because he hadn't hit puberty yet, and another boy who wore an orthodontic facebow headgear. Group association was good for us at this pointe in time because the bullies had to "spread out" their teasing and torment over several of us rather than directing it at one individual. I always seemed to get picked on for the same things, such as being the only boy at school who had hearing aids. Also my decision to go out for wrestling got me branded a "fag" by all the popular guys who all played basketball instead. On top of all of this, I wore T-bar sandals to school (which I love) with the exception of gym class where I had to change into sneakers. Being the only boy at school wearing these T-bars got me called "sissy" and "the boy in girls' shoes" although the store where my family bought me the footware had them advertised for both boys and girls. The dudes I called "my friends" helped me through all the teasing by reminding me that the bullies were probally just envious of me and couldn't deal with it.