Independance

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My step mom told me she isn't sure whether or not I will ever live independantly, and for me this is a bit of a victory, as I have my own personal conditions for when I will move out. This also is helping me by lifting the burden that I will get kicked out when I finish my degree. Finaly, someone realizes that I might not be able to do everything. It is really nice knowing I have one less burden to live with, knowing that I won't get kicked out as soon as I am done my degree that is, and having her realize just how pervasive AS can be. Yes I am capable, but I need more assistance to achieve the same results as an NT.

Anyone here have a similar experience?

Oh, and my condition for moving out completely is that I have someone else to move into a home with, because I could not mentally stand to live on my own, or even be capable at this point to have total independance.

My parents would let me live independently if I wanted to. However, I don't want to. I would hate it. I'm not ready for it. I don't want to leave my parent's home because one, I have no one to board with and two, I wouldn't be able to afford it. By living at my parents house, I have no financial responsibilities except for some of my own personal bills and I can save my money each week. I can move my life in a slow pace to my liking by going to college for several years and hopefully getting something out of it. I would only move out if I could afford it and had a good job; other that that, I will not leave. There's no way I would want to live like a poor person. I mean right now, I got a job that pays me $8.25 an hour. I would be in the poor house if that job was what I had to support myself. So, I guess my situation is different then yours but they truth is, I don't want to leave my parents house for at least another decade.

My parents seem to be deeply afraid of ever letting me become fully independent, since they seem to use my condition as an excuse for holding me back, and have the impression that I'm a helpless idiot, even when I think I could handle being alone.

I'm happy for you, Padium, that you got some security about your future and that your mom realizes you may still need some help. Congratulations!

I dunno... when I got my first apartment all by myself in Portland, it was the best thing ever. I loved the solitude and independence. I wouldn't give it up for anything.

Semi-independent is as good as I can manage at the moment, which is in the realm of possibility for someone with some form of HFA.

Sure, I'm your basic farmhand, but I can work when I'm by myself and I have a routine. I need someone to drive me around and prepare meals [other than breakfast], but I can do many things. I'm just not good at being around people and preparing stuff. I can study if I have an interest, and do very well (the silly IQ), but it has to be via correspondence as I can't function around people.

That.

Also, never being fully independent and having to rely on my parents for the rest of my life is currently my worst nightmare. Anything would be better than that. ANYTHING.

For christs sake, if it came down to it, I would rather live on the street.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

I am not capable of living alone, I can live independantly, if I have someone else to live with, someone to help me through the days. I don't know what I will do when I have no choice but to live alone. I don't mind living with my parents, but ultimately I want to live in my own home accompanied by a another person who will help me through each day, even if it is just their presence that is helping me. The only reason I can live in a university dorm is the dorm I am in I share an apartment style suite with 2 other guys and have a room to myself, so I get that semi independence I need.