DeLoreanDude wrote:
WanderMan wrote:
(I don't mean to be argumentative, I just feel I disagree with your implications. It seems tome you are imply ASD is good. I feel it is bad for some people and good for others. For me, I think it's bad, because it limits my ability to have friends and I want to change it)
There will not be a cure any time soon so you're much better off just being happy with who you are than wishing you where something you're not.
I very much disagree with that. Well, at least with one possible interpretation of both the above statements (there are 2 I can think of).
One is wishing not to be have the deficits which I think is very questionable and not helping with mental health. The other is that you don't agree with your impairments and people saying you should limit yourself to your impairments/strengths and weaknesses and pick accordingly which I absolutely disagree with.
Nobody should be forced to give up their dreams and nobody should be forced to adjust and remodel their dreams to fit given circumstances.
For me such statements seem like saying it's better to be lazy and not try that's hard than to attempt hard or impossible things and do what you want.
This is the same as when you tell someone with an LD that they shouldn't hope for a good education because they're stupid anyway and should be happy to try something that fits their intellect rather than trying to do their best in academics. I so not agree with that if someone wants friends but is autistic that they shouldn't try.
They should however accept their LD as a given fact they cannot change and base all their effort and hopes on finding a different-than-standard way. Because if they hoped to be 'normal' to achieve an average education they're probably not only going to fail hard but also get a whole lot of physical and mental illnesses because thinking you're bad or a looser is so harmful.
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