Being aware...

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Some people seem to think that being aware of our autistic differences makes us able to change them and become normal, and that if we are aware, we are intentionally being different.

Why would people believe such crap? Worse yet, why do people spread such beliefs?

I am aware of my differences, and that helps me minimize their affects on me to the observer, but I will never be normal, or even close to.

I just want to be me.
and remember there is much variation in human beings so the notion of normality may well be an illusion.

I agree with you. Being aware can make us try to work on those problems we have from AS, but it will not change us completely. Also I don't like to think as AS as 'not normal.' I do agree that we can minimize their affects by suppressing them more, but also being aware can make the symptoms seem worse.

I also agree. I've long come to the conclusion that 'normal human' is an oxymoron.

I have been guilty of this.

When I first started becoming aware of my problems I thought I was actually able to change them , and I was.

The problem was that it was only an act, I still had the same problems I just learned how to mask them for a while .

This caused me to be very drained and depressed.

But I truly thought I was becoming "normal" at the time.

If these people are anything like me then they are just on the path of learning and they make mistakes along the way.

But I think they mean well.

Try and see it from there perspective.

And I am sorry if I was one of the members to cause you distress.

I think you talk about people that can't make the difference between what you are and what you do. They don't realize that learning to act "normal" and do what is expected from you doesn't change the way you think and feel.

It's a whole different matter if you decide to act "normal' in order to defend yourself or if anybody has the right to demand you to act in a certain manner.