How to handle being ignored?

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At work I'm ignored by Management. They treat me as if I was a temp, don't give me the same rights they give the rest of our team. I'm also consistently ignored by my colleagues.

My family and all relatives ignore me too.

People I try to get closer to ignore me, after a while they disappear or start ignoring me unless they need something from me, then they call.

i like being ignored at work. i can get away with much because no one notices.

I just get more done. I can get around procedures, do my job, and collect my pay...

Actually I have the problem of not being ignored by my family. They are always infinging on my privacy and dont like it when I am in my own world. I think they like me to show an interest in them, and if I don't, they make an effort to get a response from me.

I suppose it depends on what you want. I am sure that the people who ignore you are not the best for you, so keep on looking and you will find people who will really like you for who you are.

I guess all you can do is keep trying to talk to them. At least you can say you tried and they are rude for ignoring. That's a tough situation to be in, especially if you are sensative to it. Sometimes when you try to talk to people who want to ignore you, they ignore you even more. It would be nice if everyone felt it important to respond to everyone else, but they rationalize and say they don't have to. The only thing I can suggest is direct confrontation although I don't know how it would look in your situation. You could try doing considerate things for everyone, although I don't know how that would come off, either. Sometimes we are just stuck with being given the cold shoulder.

Depends, if its at work, you are probably lucky not to have to socialise with people who are not enough like you to enjoy being with them.

If you are with people you like, then that is disappointing.

If you are at home, then small infrequent interruptions are tolerable but otherwise, yes, ignore me at home, I have really interesting things to be getting on with

Being ignored is good, when they pay attention it is trouble.

At work, try to manage the low performers, ignore the ones who just do their job.

Family I can do without, steal, destroy, agravate is all they do.

"Friends" are customers trying to steal something.

My best relationships in life have been by accident, it is best to get away from it all.

I do the same day trips you do, leaving everything I know, just taking a break. Sometimes an afternoon, sometimes a day or two. I am not really interested in what is there, just being away.

Everyone has a rotten life, they are just trying to share, don't let them.

Once upon a time I lived in the same place, same rut, and one day I reaized I ddi not know the world for fifty miles around. So I started mapping it, this direction, that, and now I live in a much larger world.

Most of my larger world does not know me or care. It dilutes that work and family poison.

Develop another life, keep it a secret.

I meant ignored as in you're not given anything that people are given when in a relationship of any kind, then they come running when they need something and expect me to give my soul. I don't think people who've posted so far understood it this way.

Why don't you point out their hypocrisies and depict them as heartless monsters by stating the implied? If they try to fire you, attempt to persuade them (ie create guilt complexes) by giving a tear jerking speech regarding how well you served the company and how your loyalty was exemplary. Depict yourself as heroic and use the right amount of drama.

I had a friend who was a gardener and he tried to mix with people who were much more successful than he was and when he went to a dinner party, they poured wine for everyone except him and he let it pass, god, I would have been desparate for a drink and had to ask for a glass of wine ha ha

I can understand what you mean, I have this issue as well.
I don't learn in the exact same fashion as say the next guy, but I am a loyal employee, who when given the effort, would never let them down.
To some companies, I suppose that's asking too much. They prefer the woman who'll drag out a 3 hr job into 6 hrs, just to get more money...because she tells them what they want to hear (whether it's true or not) and takes great audio instructions. If they were to email the same instructions to me, so I'd have a visual reference, they'd have an employee that comes in, gets the job done quickly, and saves 3 hours of paid time. This employee just won't ask them how they are every morning......grrrrr ....this bothers me.

I guess there could be all sorts of reasons of why this could happen to you, can you offer anymore detail?

Find another job, if you can.

ruveyn

My only hunch is that maybe there's some non-verbal cue I'm not giving out and that makes people think they don't need to make an effort to keep a relationship with me, that the relationship will be there and intact if and when they ever need it.

easy I ignore them back

how do i handle being ignored? very well i think

That's what I usually do but sometimes I have trouble whether that person is doing it intentionally or not.

I had the similar treatment back at my old job, and I asked wtf was going on. They never forgot me after that...but I would be careful. I'm lucky I didn't get fired for that but I was so boiling mad and tried really hard to be social and part of the "team".

Anyway, it pisses me off too Greentea.

Wish I knew what of this peking order and how to deal with it.