Eye contact in the mirror

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I sometimes have a big problem making eye contact with myself in the mirror - unless I know for sure I am absolutely alone. I think it's extremely odd. Anyone else get this?

I find this whole eye contact thing fascinating. I can do it with myself in the mirror no problem - it just happens naturally. As for other people, eye contact also tends to happen naturally with other people on the spectrum, but I can't handle it with most NTs. I've always wondered what it is about our eyes that there's that natural difference for me between the two groups?

Does it affect other situations with eye contact to,like to someone elses eyes?


Kind of the same for me,I'm unable to do eye contact that way,but also not with any other form of eyes either whether it be on posters,TV,humans physically there etc,whether being alone or not doesn't make a difference for me.

On some days it's better than others, it seems to be confidence related. If I'm in a good mood, and feeling fairly confident, ey contact is a lot easier. Of course, people who know me are not used to me looking in their eyes - so when I do make eye contact, it probably makes them more nervous than me.

I'm fine with making eye contact with myself in the mirror. I just don't like to do it with other people.

I don't like looking at myself in a mirror. As for eye contact with other people, I tend to stare a lot when talking with someone.

I am able to do it, but I find it unpleasant/distasteful. I generally avoid making eye contact in the mirror.

I could quote a Michael Jackson lyric here but I'll be merciful and refrain.

When I was in my teens and 20s, I would sometimes stand in front of the mirror, look at myself, and disassociate. It was like a meditative state. Years later, I found out the same thing used to happen to John Lennon. Somehow, the act of self-gazing created an increase in alpha brain waves, which I believe is the wave set found when people are falling asleep or in deep meditation.

It hasn't happened to me in some time and I miss it.

It hasn't really been a problem for me. Most of the times I will have eye contact, but sometimes I won't. As far as eye contact with other people goes, I used to not have eye contact. I used to always look at the ground when people talked to me, but since 4 years ago, I have made eye contact with people, but sometimes I still look at the ground.

When i look at my eyes in the mirror it looks like all that is missing is a bloodied battle axe and music chanting BLOOD BLOOD BLOOD BLOOD in the background.

I don't care much for looking at myself in the mirror, but I think it's mostly a self-confidence issue as I don't think it feels unpleasant in the same way as looking at another person. I can force myself to look other people in the eye briefly but I find it very stressful and can't do it more than a few seconds at a time, and I only do it when I really have to like at work. With friends and family I just look in another direction. I think they're used to it.

Hahaha... I don't have a mirror.

As I remember, I didn't like it much. I don't generally look people in the eyes. I've gotten good at giving clerks, counterfolk, etc, a brief second of eye contact so they don't think I'm nuts. However I don't think everyone buys it.

If I do get talking on a subject, I'll stare them down. In general I think that's scarier to experience- the other person can't escape.

I feel like if I do make eye contact, the old phrase "the eyes are windows to the soul" takes on new life. Give me 10 seconds in someone's eyes and I know them too well, I can't take it. Other people generally don't like it either.

Eyes are the densest information you can get in the natural world.

This probably explains a comment I made a few days ago in a thread on empathy: if I look someone in the eye it feels like they're burrowing into my mind. I thus make eye contact only when absolutely necessary.

Hey, I thought I was the only person that did that. I have always been able to do it. I don't do it very often because it freaks me out.

I don't have a problem looking into other people's eyes. This is partly due to the amount of personal skills training I have had (interviewing, training, etc.). Sometimes I may stare too much. It's a forced process for me, I consciously think that "I need to look them in the eye to appear more confidant and attentive".

However, if I'm looking in your eyes that probably means I'm not paying attention to you. It's way too much visual stimulation. If I'm looking into someones eyes I barely remember anything they say. I tend to not look at people I'm more comfortable with because I'm busy integrating what they are saying. I have to go through a process of converting the spoken ideas and information into something visual before I can retain it.

If I look into my own eyes for more than ten second or so I lose my face. It can become a random assortment of parts that look improperly associated, like they're not really parts of a coehrent whole. It doesn't look like me. It doesn't look like a person.

:lol::lol:

Yes this is the same with me. I can't see my whole face - I can't read it the way I would read someone elses face on TV for example. If I take a photo of myself, it's easier. It's very wierd but I'm glad someone else has this problem.