Bataar wrote:
I'm definitely a pessimist and was wondering where other Aspies stand.
My family has told me repeatedly that I am always finding the "doom & gloom" in everything. It bothers them greatly (they are all avowed optimists). My father won't take anything I say seriously because he always assumes that I am crying wolf or just being difficult, even if I am 100% right. He just dismisses my thoughts as biased due to my "pessimism." Personally, I don't think I am truly a pessimist. I just refuse to live life through rose-colored glasses. And I like to prepare for the worst because I hate surprises.
Bataar wrote:
With ideas, people, anything, the first thing I notice are its flaws.
This I can really relate to. I always notice things that are "wrong" or out of place. I can solve most fictional mysteries quickly and easily because I usually notice the early "clues" that most people miss. I can instantly spot spelling errors, grammatical errors, problems in theories, etc. It drives the people around me crazy sometimes because I will point out a problem with something, but I generally can't provide a solution. So I think people just assume that I am trying to be negative, not realizing that my motivation is not coming from a desire to be contrary, but rather an inability to let a problem that is obvious to me go unnoticed. I have never found anyone else with this "special ability." Is this an Aspie thing? Are there any other Aspies out there who can relate to this?
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