Ever thought about paying someone to be your friend?

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Mw99
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03 Nov 2007, 1:10 pm

I know this has got to be one of the stupidest posts on this forum, but I have actually entertained the idea of paying people to be my friends.

I know, sad and pathetic.

I'm too stingy to pay anyone to be my friend, though.



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03 Nov 2007, 1:13 pm

MW99,
wouldn't call it pathetic or stupid.

plenty of people pay to have escorts to take them out for dinner and there isn't anything bad said about them.

so can't see why it is stupid/pathetic to pay for friends.
only thing is,would they really be friends,or just hired support?



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03 Nov 2007, 1:18 pm

yes :oops:


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03 Nov 2007, 1:25 pm

:) I think of my psychologist as my paid, professional friend.


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03 Nov 2007, 1:26 pm

If they take money for being your friends then they're not good friends.



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03 Nov 2007, 1:31 pm

That's like paying a prostitute, but for a different need.



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03 Nov 2007, 1:33 pm

Ever heard of "life coaches"? That seems awfully stupid to me, but lots of people swear by them. If having a life coach has become the norm for some in our society, then I don't see why it should be thought of as odd to pay someone to be your friend. I think you could easily pay someone to be a "friend coach", and tell them that part of their duties would be to help you assimilate into everyday society. The "friend coach" could go with you to parties, kind of help you if you're interested in someone of the opposite sex, help you to say "the right thing", remind you when you're talking too much off-topic, etc.

The more I think about this, the more I think it's an absolutely brilliant idea!

Kris



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03 Nov 2007, 1:39 pm

Naa, I have enough friends on the internet.



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03 Nov 2007, 1:44 pm

Great idea, great business.

How many sessoins of friendship training would it take to be able to freelance, and pick friends from the wild?

There is therapy for everything, except for what we need.

No problem finding a girl for any form of sex you can imagine, yes, they still do that.

I would like a well dressed, intelligent woman to have dinner out with, and perhaps talk of art and writing.

Not available at any price.

Match making is an old and new concept, others have the same problem.

Why this make friends at random? The least likely way to success.

There is a lot of room in the asexual line for meeting people who might really hit it off.

Bowling leagues, the local pub, lack depth.

Talking to other patrons at the Library is forbidden, strange rule, fear of bookish gangs?

Speaking to them outside is called stalking.

In New Orleans, and Europe I hear, going to a Coffee House is an open invitation for anyone to speak to you, but in America they go for coffee, and strangers who speak will be reported to the management.

Here we call it Cafe Socity, coffee is like Cheers, everybody knows your name. It is being in public.

Here strangers talk in the grocery checkout line, do not do that anywhere else.

Having sex, forming lifetime relationships, is no place to start.

Based around common obsessions, we should be able to match folk to the level of friends with common interests.

A few hours of fine dining with a woman who can speak of painters, is much better than sex.

I rarely get a chance to use my best behavior, to live as art. I would like a few high points in my life.

As a profession, it would develop friendship as a science. There is something there.

It is human to want to interact with others at that level.



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03 Nov 2007, 1:51 pm

schleppenheimer wrote:
Ever heard of "life coaches"? That seems awfully stupid to me, but lots of people swear by them. If having a life coach has become the norm for some in our society, then I don't see why it should be thought of as odd to pay someone to be your friend. I think you could easily pay someone to be a "friend coach", and tell them that part of their duties would be to help you assimilate into everyday society. The "friend coach" could go with you to parties, kind of help you if you're interested in someone of the opposite sex, help you to say "the right thing", remind you when you're talking too much off-topic, etc.

The more I think about this, the more I think it's an absolutely brilliant idea!

Kris


There are people who offer those services? Where do I find them?



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03 Nov 2007, 1:54 pm

Inventor wrote:
bookish gangs.

:lol:


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03 Nov 2007, 1:58 pm

Er, no. It's not for me. I would never become that desperate.



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03 Nov 2007, 3:01 pm

Mw99 wrote:
I know this has got to be one of the stupidest posts on this forum, but I have actually entertained the idea of paying people to be my friends.

I know, sad and pathetic.

I'm too stingy to pay anyone to be my friend, though.


Don't do it. It would set you up to be taken advantage of very badly.


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03 Nov 2007, 3:21 pm

MrMark wrote:
:) I think of my psychologist as my paid, professional friend.


There is a difference. A Psychologist is a licensed professional that is required by a state board to adhere to an accepted code of ethics and getting personally involved with a client is considered unethical and grounds for having his/her license revoked as well as possible criminal charges.


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03 Nov 2007, 3:26 pm

KingdomOfRats wrote:
MW99,
wouldn't call it pathetic or stupid.

plenty of people pay to have escorts to take them out for dinner and there isn't anything bad said about them.

so can't see why it is stupid/pathetic to pay for friends.
only thing is,would they really be friends,or just hired support?


In fact you sometimes hear about people paying prostitutes just to talk to them. So there are people out there who are in a way paying for friends, in fact paying way over the odds for them!! !!

When I did a lot more music journalism than I do now, (currently writing fiction which doesn't come with as many freebies!) I used to get a lot of guestlist places, so I could take my friends to amazing gigs and they wouldn't have to pay. I was also pretty generous with the drinks buying once I'd had a few! I wondered at the time if that was giving people cool stuff to be my friends, I did feel like some people took advantage of me, and it felt horrible.



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03 Nov 2007, 3:28 pm

Tequila wrote:
Er, no. It's not for me. I would never become that desperate.


Ditto


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