Don't you hate it when?

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You try to tell people this or that or even try to explain this or that and loads of people will make these assumptions without knowing the facts.

Good example is that well last year, ok I am chatting with a girl in Britain who like me has Autism, and she asks me if I have gotten a job yet, and I explain not yet and explain about how i've tried and she accuses me of not trying hard enough.

I try to explain my town is bone dry on jobs, my town lost public busing in 2004, and I even went to the Employment agency and they have barely helped.

This girl spoke about how she has a job and even her Aunt who is on the spectrum has a job too and I was like thinking to myself, her Aunt doesn't live in my town.

You would think that someone who is on the spectrum like me, would understand me when I said what I said, but nope she failed to understand and eventually I blocked her and told her she was ignorant as well.

I won't say any names cause I am honestly not even sure if this person is a member of wrongplanet but I honestly don't think she is.

Ok onto another story too, there was this person who had become my pen pal but later dropped me, well she had asked me this and that and I explained I have Autism, no license to drive and I cannot even afford to own a car anyways right now (otherwise I would have a license and a car), and well this person said it doesn't hurt to ask the Government for help and I was like "hello, I tried asking the Government for help in getting me a job when I went to Government run employment agency and they have not been the greatest of help to me at all."

Government agencies are just as organized as a 3rd world country that if I had the funds to go to a privately run employment agency, I would have done that instead.

I also told the person I would need a factory job to be able to own a car and I have no access to a factory, otherwise I would be working in a factory (I mean it too because I have no credit rating which means I would be unable to take out a loan which means in order to own a car and cover all costs, I would need to be a factory worker like my Father).

And then tonight, I comment in this group on an issue of a problem my girlfriend who is on the spectrum is dealing with, and someone put his nose where it didn't belong and made suggestions that would actually worsen things for my girlfriend.

My guess would be that it's just human nature. If someone doesn't appreciate what you say you shouldn't talk to them.

Yeah I hate it when that happens. I have lots of arguments with my mum like that. I get in these moods that I find hard to snap out of and she says I'm not even trying. I forgot she could read my thoughts.

And my ex once made these ridiculous assumptions about me not wanting to talk to people and that I didn't want to move to his town because I didn't want to be independent. I was going through social anxiety at the time.
I calmly tried to explain to him but I don't think he cared.

I hate it as well. It pisses me off when people don't listen. I think I have pretty much given up on those kind of arguments. I now say "I already told you why." "We have already been there" "I don't need to tell you again" and I say this to put them down "What do you not understand about....are you that stupid to not listen?" Yeah ignorance pisses me off so I put them down.

I don't know. I can't read their mind.

Oh, I just hate when that happens, because I sometimes get pissed off and reply in an aggressive manner. What is so hard to understand?

^^ I believe I too have very similar problems with my parents. They often accuse me of wishing to argue with them, whereas I believe I simply wish to ask questions, and then they often begin shouting at me and to 'leave it alone'. This makes me very confused I believe. For instance, this morning, my parents had taken my happy kitty, Plato to the veterinarian, and we have been informed that he is overweight and therefore we require to use special food to allow him to lose some of his happy weight. I believe I happily agreed that we required to feed him less food. My mother also purchased a spray so that Plato would stop spraying urine in the house. I was worried that this may make Nell (our other female kitty) and Plato uncomfortable. Perhaps this was mean of me to express this. My father then stated rather aggressively, that I should save my money so that I could pay for the vet when Plato gains Diabetes. I was rather confused by this as this seems to imply that I did not wish to assist Plato with his happy little Diet. I therefore rather panicked and kept asking why father said this. He then became even more angry and shouted me to just 'shut up' (or perhaps another phrase similar to this one). I believe this was my fault, however I am not certain why this persists in happening.

Also, concerning your work, RPM, I believe it is not nice for individuals to assume that you are not attempting to search for a happy job, expecially due to the fact that you state that you are searching for one.

Yeah I get so annoyed when this happens. It's so hard to communicate what I'm really thinking to other people, and then when I finally get it out they don't listen or don't let me finish before arguing with me or whatever. It's like they don't actually want to learn about what I think or consider my point of view, they just want to prove that once again they are right. They are just looking for their own self-validation. I don't know why I bother, sometimes. Actually, I don't bother most of the time.