Anyone ever forget about their special needs?

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I sometimes I forget I need accommodations. I sign up for a sewing class with the Portland Community College and it's only four classes and it was beginners class. There was a section in the PCC book about if you have a disability and you need accommodations, call this number. Because I hadn't been to school for a while and did fine for the past few years now when things were balanced, I thought I would be fine without any assistants. Wrong. I got myself thrown out of sewing class because of what happened last Wednesday I got an anxiety attack and had a meltdown and started stimming (but keep most of it under control) because I couldn't understand the instructions and I needed to be shown how to do something, not told. Because there are other people in class, the teachers don't have time to sit with me and guide me through instructions because I can't connect the dots. Then today I get a phone call from one of the teachers and told me how am I liking sewing class and if I felt okay in it. I told her I did after I knew what I was supposed to do. She said she had called around and told me about these places that do one and one sewing and that would be better for me because the class I'm in, they can't give me one and one because there are other students and they saw I needed more guidance and help so she told me what these three places were and I picked the one in Portland she told me the address and gave me the phone number. She also told me she knows those people and they know her and they like work together. She even told me the school is going to give me my refund. So yeah I did get myself thrown out of class. My bad for neglecting my special needs. I could have argued with her but I didn't. I know better next time.

Like one of my online friends told me, "That class isn't made for aspies."

I would imagine that all people forget about their condition from time to time. It shouldn't be so mind consuming that you cannot for one moment forget about it.

see all as the same,and only ever get reminded of own disabilities when coming to WP,or by specialists,social worker or support staff.

Yeah I do sometimes. I got in big trouble at work one day. There was a planned fire drill that I had forgotten about one afternoon. I didn't have any ear protection on, and I was already stressed out that day because the light above my desk was flickering because the bulb was going out, and I was trying to do a zillion things at once, and constantly being interrupted by my coworkers and my boss.

When the fire alarm went off I freaked. Instead of grabbing my ear muffs and ear plugs I curled up in a little ball under my desk with my arms over my head and just kept screaming "make it stop." I forgot where I was and that I was supposed to leave the building when the alarm went off......apparently this didn't go over too well with my superiors and I ended up in human resources the next day.....it was pretty hard to explain that one.....I didn't get fired, but I did have to disclose my ASD to upper management and human resources.....

Teachers are not trained on how to handle an active student like you. They don't like anyone who is not trained in the art of passivity and obedience.

Yes.

For about 15 years.
I was told to forget and not stigmatise myself by people who cared about me because they told me that being labeled "AS" would limit me in life.

This is why I feel ashamed and frightened to ask for help given my past experiences. People who care about me feel ashamed and frightened too.

Now I'm having difficulties and have been overprotected, I'm starting to remember again.

It's utterly crazy, I'm brilliant and some things, but rubbish at others.

I can actually outpace a normal person in some activities, it's just the social interaction aspect and noisy environments that screws things up.

No it's hard to forget when teachers at school are rubbing it in my face every 2 seconds.

Well you're still a kid and still in school but when you're an adult, there is hardly anything in your life that will make your disability show because you make your own choices so you forget unless you are confined to a wheelchair or crutches or to a missing body part or any other psychical disability vs having a mental disorder.

I know the feeling .

Yes, though I can't come up with an example right now.

I tend to kind of not take being different and needing different things into account spontaneously when I make decisions because I just think people will all do it the way I think it should be until usually just a moment later I realise things can't work like that for me because I'm different from others.

The more responsibilities and obligations I have, the more I am reminded that I have a disability. If I could live in a private world of my own devising, I would feel perfectly normal. However, I have to deal with the real world and it is full of reminders that I don't really function well in the commonly defined reality.

I have quite mild AS but a friend of mine has it more noticeably and there's this "learning support" person with him in lessons, and she is very insulting. She and every learning support teacher I have met talks like this eg "you need to write that down now" whilst he's getting a pen or something. I always have in the back of my mind that I have AS but it never really leeds me to act that strangely (except in social situations, with people I'm not that friendly with) I just keep thinking hmm I have AS oh well... next thought

No. Everytime I walk around people I know exactly what's wrong with me and what I am; people don't know what's wrong with me and who I am, but that's because not everyone can see an ASD.

Only when I'm at home do I sometimes forget, but even then, I have memories of the pain, which are hard to forget.

Tell me about it...

I began to do much better at solo school-work when I became self sufficient, my parents gave me resources at home and people left me alone.

I'm glad someone else has noticed this.

I dont even view myself as having special needs.

I cringe every time my shrink mentions the word "support" ack. I am very self sufficient and hate the idea of needing extra help.