general rant!

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so i just need to put down my rant! i have aspergers, as does my eldest son, second son has classic autism, just been to developmental clinic with youngest son, who is 4, and the consultant agrees with my concerns, that nhe may have aspergers and adhd.......

just feeling really confused at the moment, i know how great aspergers is, but i also know how hard it is when you are a child or teenager. i love my aspergers syndrome, but i also know its hard, at least he will grow up, like his older brother, knowing why he feels different, unlike me, who just felt like a weird freak! i chose not to let him have the mmr, as i feared he would develop an asd, but now i dont know, as autism, may be more severe than aspergers, but at least he will be happy in his own world, and not know how different he is, like my autistic son sees the worls, as a place of dinosuars and comic heros, my aspie children, and me, know we are different, know we dont fit in, and strive for acceptance, my son with classic autism is happy in his own world!

rant rant rant!

sorry, just hoped i might have had at least one NT!

Fair enought that you needed to have a rant, it's good to rant sometimes and get things off you're chest.

But overall I think you should just be happy that you have two healthy children, some kids have conditions which mean they wont even make it into adulthood so overall having aspergers or autism isn't all that bad, and they are still quite capable of living happy, fuffiling lives.

And we do now live in times where aspergers is at least recognized, I keep thinking what it would have been like to have had aspergers one hundred years ago. I'd imagine it's much better now.

So basically what I'm saying is try and look on the bright side

cheers dude x

I used to have a step son who I helped raise from the age of 6. Since he was not my child I was not able to do a lot of things with him I would have liked, such as trips with my family and holidays. I have since then had a child of my own. When I was pregnant I was looking forward to doing all of the things I was not able to do with my step child. Baseball, chorus, PTA, sports boosters, volunteering at the elementary school...all of that soccer mom stuff.

My son was born extremely premature and barely made it out alive. Now he has PDD=NOS, (which IMO presents more like aspergers than HFA, even though he has the language delay). Anyway, my life with my son is much different that I anticipated. There are a lot of things I couldn't do with him. Couldn't go to the movies, he couldn't sit still for books in the library etc etc. I spent a time mourning the loss of an NT child that I "could" have had.

My son is 7 years old, and although I spend my time working to pay for therapy, and driving him around to speech and social skills sessions private school and activities that he can deal with and have fun, which is very few, I would never change him for the world. He is such a fantastic kid, and so much fun, just in different ways that I anticipated. It's valid to mourn the loss of an NT child that you can just put on the school bus and not worry about them, who can socialize like the rest of them, have friends, play games, enjoy all the aspects of childhood, but I agree with OLI234. It is recognized and people are becoming more aware all the time. The progress is slow, but it's progress. My neice has a brain tumor. She's 14. She could live with this forever or pass away next month. Her family will never know. I'll take AS and HFA over that any day!

Hang in there! At least you know what it is like and you can relate in a very real way. I'm NT and I have to muddle through the best I can and hope I don't screw him up in the process