Do you ever try and have a social conversation

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and people don't seem to appreciate it?

After years of being out of high school, I have forgotten how I used to piss kids off because they tell me to be quiet or mind my own business as if they don't want me talking to them. When I try talking to people again, I get told "Don't worry about it." What's worse is "None of your business." So I figured fine, no talking to people, I'll just wait again till people talk to me. Happened to me at the Easter Egg Hunt that was held for us adults in a park. That was fun though, getting all those eggs.

I have the lack of social grace to make random conversations with people. They sometimes appreciate it, sometimes they don't. Though I never do butt in if there is no conversation before hand for me to jumpboard with.

I've butted into conversations and kids would get mad at me for it. I was on topic. No wonder aspies don't have the good social skills, how are we supposed to if they don't let us?

If they are talking about a topic I like or know about, perhaps I could get in on a conversation but only rarely. Most times, I have the mentality of not wanting to annoy people so I feel I should just be quiet and play the waiting game and wait for them to talk to me that way I can answer. I figure if they want me in a conversation, they'd say something.

I gave up on conversations, I truly do not understand them.

Yes I remember gettign the None of your Business when I was a child. It confused me especially because it would make me think of an actual business, such as a corporation and I wasnt sure what business had to do with me trying to start a conversation.

I did that once when I was 7. I first heard it from a friend and I kept asking her where she was going and she said "none of your business" and I kept asking her the same question because I didn't understand what business I have. Then I started to hear it from my teacher in school who was an aid. It didn't take me long to figure out it means "shut up."

I can manage 121 conversations when the focus is purely on me, as then I don't panic about if/when to speak. Groups are more difficult - especially when they are already established as I always feel unwelcome. I haven't actually been told to "mind your own" but I rarely contribute much as I worry about this happening. Normally I leave groups in peace and stay by myself.