Experiences of Discrimination, Teasing, etc.

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Would everyone mind sharing their experiences of discrimination, teasing, being used as a scapegoat, etc.? I know that when I was a kid I was the scapegoat a lot; when anything went wrong the kids would shout my name and point at me. I was also excluded from groups of friends I attempted to approach as a child and adolescent. I would talk to people, and they would brush me off and then leave. As an adult, I suspect that I get lower pay that most of my co-workers, despite doing the same quality of work.

So what have your experiences been?

I remember some kids thought it'd be funny to grab me and shove grass and dirt in my mouth.

Other than that, had this kid in middle school harass me because apparently, I wasn't as smart in academics as he was. He made fun of me because I got an 84% on a math test, and almost every time I came out of my special reading class he'd interrogate me as to why I attended it. He really couldn't let go as he would see me in a chemistry class while he was in an AP Physics class.

I have a speech problem. I was teased and tortured constantly for it in grade school. This coupled with having poor control over my temper led to me getting in constant trouble. They also were constantly picking fights with me. Unfortunately for them, you know how some autistic-types can copy something they've seen before, even if they themselves don't know how they did it? I do that with physical stuff. In 3rd or 4th grade I roundhouse kicked a kid without ever having practiced it before. I frequently got in trouble for "hurting" other kids (making them cry) even though they were the ones who provoked me or attacked me in the first place. Grade school was hell. They put me in the self-contained classroom because of my "behavior".

I was home schooled from 6th through 8th grade. High school was a marked improvement. They left me alone more, and I had a lot more self-control. On the couple of instances it did get physical (and never by my choice), I knew just how far to take it to make the other person not want to continue without really hurting them. Most of these bullies aren't very brave. They're a paper tiger. Once they realize they've screwed up and lost control of the situation, or that they've just awoken something totally feral, they get very afraid. The couple people who hit me did it once. And only once. I think a lot of them saw I was hurting, though (I was heavily depressed at the time, and there was no hiding it), and left me alone.

I got hassled verbally, psychologically and physically in my all-girls secondary school for being 'weird'. They knew how to provoke me so that I looked like the aggressor. They were savvy and I was clueless to subtlety - Not a good mix. I preferred being shunned by kids when I was younger to that.

Nearly all my bullying has been emotional and verbal, not alot of physical though.
I usually get people tricking me because I'm naive. Or people pretend to be friendly so I end up telling them secrets like who I fancy. I also get people jumping back with a scared/disgusted face when I walk past. People joke about my second name (hobson) and call me hobbo.
I've had people follow me around school calling me things just to see what I do, I usually just yell at them to f**k off and one time I ended up kicking the wall and it broke my toe.
I've had some cases of serious personal bullying from a few people, one of those got expelled from school partly because of what she did to me.
I have always been the easy target, I went to a guides trip once and someone whom I've never met was horrible to me the whole week and kept shutting me out of the group, sometimes I think I give off victim vibes.
Most of my bullies are bitchy plastic girls and chavs, not many boys though.

A lot of physical and verbal abuse here. Some of it was rather extreme - extreme meaning that I was almost put on a stretcher because it got so bad. Most of this was in school.

You'd like me to talk about bullying in school or under appreciation at work? Which one?

If I get most of the work done and my colleagues goof off in the meantime, my manager does not recognize my effort. I am judged by my facial expression, my smile, my friendliness as opposed to the actual work.

The most damaging discrimination I've experienced is so subtle and pervasive that it's difficult to fully comprehend.

I've only had a few people that would be verbally abusive to me. I could never understand why they would hate me. I was always a nice person who never started arguments with anyone. Hell, I was against gossip.
I think one boy started to hate me because he had a crush on me but I was too nervous to talk to him. Also, I did not feel the same way.
No one ever made fun of me for having AS, because I didn't know that I had it.
I wasn't deeply affected by the verbal abuse. It was just name calling, some names I had no idea what the meaning was.
I remember my boyfriend in high school was teased and physically bullied by these boys and when I defended him they started to tease me. Strange thing was we actually got along well in classes.

Well, I was always the last person to be picked for a team in gym class, but that really wasn't so bad. The only thing that was bad was really that I had to be picked...

The worst abuse I can recall was getting my head slammed into a locker in 7th grade by a bully. Part of my head got cut, and blood went everywhere and really freaked me out. The school nurse placed me into a wheelchair and took me to the nurse's office. It was then I learned that all of the blood really isn't a big deal. Heads just do that when they get cuts in them.

Gaya, are you paid less than the other staff at work?

I was picked on for ten years of public school. It ranged from physical abuse, to verbal, to not having any friends. It started when I first entered school in first grade with the kids throwing rocks at me and pushing me down, in fifth grade the vision in one eye was permanently damaged with a jump rope. I was punched in eighth grade. For years a lot of the students said I was stupid and ugly. I had one close friend in fifth grade, but she went to a different school the next year and I had no other friends after that. By the way, I graduated in the top 4% of my class in high school, so I don't think I am stupid.

everywhere i've gone. there seems to be a certain extent to which 'NT's' b***h about everyone (particularly at work), the problem with me is my hearing is fine enough to pick out what they say, including the stuff i'm not supposed to hear. It also seems far more vitriolic when about me, probably due to the concomitant social difficulties and my flat refusal to participate in such talk about others.

Add the usual bullying from day one at school, (also at sixth form, university but different) sometimes even assault; i've been punched, kicked, dragged to the ground. One time playing football (soccer) indoors one guy (who had been like this all the time we'd known each other) flicked my ankle out from under me when i was running at full tilt (and i can move pretty damn fast). I fell forward, breaking my fall with my left temple against a wall. blacked out fo about 6-7 seconds and was floored for 5-10 minutes. Worse has been done to me but hey, unless I do something (which only ever gets me in serious trouble) they all get away with it regardless. ho-hum