Is 28 years old too old to be a bully?

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Isn't that too old?

Wouldn't he have to have some sort of mental retardation to act that way at that age?

there is no age or intelligence minimum or limit to bullying,know quite a few bullies over forty,including one Aspie.

Unfortunatly, there is no age limit to bullying behaviour.
Although a large amount happens at school level, and most people think that is the end of it, it can carry on at work, or at any other point in life.
This site has some useful information on trying to deal with it: http://www.bullyonline.org/

I agree with the other members already posting. There is no age limit on bullying behaviour. The bully might have learned it young, but the behaviour will stay the same all their lives if they don't consciously change from being a bully.

There is a real satisfaction some people get from bullying. If they can not sublimate that satisfaction and channel it into other behaviours, you get a more mature person that still has the juvenile bully about him. So what I am saying is, the behaviour might be what seems delayed in maturing, but the person might seem mature in other areas.


Merle

There is no age limit on bullying. I do think it's childish though because it's something you expect out of children because they don't know any better so it's the grown ups job to correct their behavior. But sadly there are jerks out there who don't care so they bully. I think adults do it differently though than kids do. There is different kinds of bullying so it doesn't always mean putting someone down and making fun of them, it can be lot of other things that is considered bullying. I just think adults do it differently than kids. While kids are more direct so they say direct insults, adult ones do it more discretly so they will say things to your face and you won't have a clue they are putting you down by the way they are wording their words. Another aspie weakness that becomes a superpower. It keeps you from knowing when someone is insulting you so it makes it harder for the bullies to get to you.

What about my second question. Is there mental retardation involved?

I think there is. Behaving like that after high school tells me their brain is not devloped.

I don't think that bullying is a problem with maturity at all. It's more of a narcissism coupled with a sadistic pleasure that makes it perceived as unnecessary aggression by the bullied. The only times I've bullied was when I was being a jackass and having some minimising sadistic element in me taking pleasure on somebody else's loss. It wasn't about maturity - though I would have continued on with the behaviour if I hadn't matured enough to see how it was so hypocritical of me - but rather a learning of the opposite end and its repercussions. Without being able to understand the importance of the repercussions and reciprocity of actions, delinquency begins.

If they continue to bully in the typical childhood way (violence and dumb insults towards random "different" people), then they might be mentally challenged.

But many bullies have developed more refined techniques. Such as abusing their authority at work to make others feel inferior, or antagonizing new people into quitting. When bullies become police officers, it isn't a pretty sight. Police officers that happen to be bullies will often take enjoyment out of watching people who commit small crimes sweat, and using more force than necessary when dealing with potential gang members and violent offenders.

Let's face it. Has there ever been a bully that had their sh*t together? A good job? Intelligent?

i'll be 29 in june, and have dropped all my bully ways, especially online. i never bullyied anyone in real life though

28 years old should be too old to be a bully but it isn't. I t shows a failure to have a developed empathy for other people around by the time you've reached adulthood. A lot of people who still bully at this age are probably sociopaths but not all. Others who do are probably not happy with their lives in some way or lack confidence so they have to hurt someone else to make themselves feel better.

I don't get how people can get pleasure from bullying other people because I know how it feels to be bullied. I would never want someone else to feel the horrible things I felt as a result of being bullied. As much as I disliked being bullied it has made me more sensitive to other people. Bullying other people would just make me hate myself because I would see that I am as bad as all the people who have previously bullied me.

I would think that some sociopaths have their s**t together. The competitiveness in society is something that sociopaths would be good at because they have no concern for the feelings of others and would be willing to hurt anyone in order to get what they want. Bullying would be advantageous to sociopaths at times because it would hurt the self-esteem of the victim . Hurting someone's self-esteem can make them believe they are going to fail which makes them easy to defeat.


Luke

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No. Unfortunately, bullying has no age limit. I've known bullies in their 70s and 80s.

KevinLA, unfortunately some bullies do substantially have their sh*t together. I was once bullied in tandem by two girls in an office where I worked, and it only ended when they both got promoted to other posts. I really, really hope that someone braver and higher up the chain than me eventually dealt with them, but I fear they just went on to torture the other 'quiet ones' in other offices.

You have to be very sneaky in order to deal with sociopaths. For example, if a sociopath takes your ideas, you can discuss a horrible idea with him and act like it's the cat's meow while keeping concealing your true agenda to undermine him. You can also bring your own recorder and try to catch them making abusive remarks. Ask something that will inevitably provoke abuse then proceed to record their insults and verbally abusive statements. Do this repeatedly if possible without their apparent knowledge. This gives you immense power over them.

Do you remember in "twins", in the opening credits, where the big baby kicks the little baby? Outside of the smile, one might think it was an innocent accident. Well, THAT SHOULD be about the maximum age for a bully. Of course, the little baby then kicks the big baby, and the big baby then cries. IRONICALLY, in THAT movie, the LITTLE baby grows up to be a short guy with a moderate IQ and LOW real income, and HE becomes the BULLY! The bigger baby grows to be a BIG guy with a HIGH IQ an expense account(but no REAL need for money), and becomes a kind of super hero! To make this clear, danny devito plays the little baby as an adult, and arnold schwartzenegger plays the big baby as an adult!

For those that haven't seen the movie, the babies are the result of a genetic experiment. They got TWO babies(twins). The bigger one was provied for 100%, and the smaller was put up for adoption. The smaller one never got adopted, and ended up being a conman. The bigger one grows up, finds out that he had a brother, and goes to the mainland to find his brother and rebuild their original family. The little brother was in a lot of trouble but, as the bad guys try to collect, his bigger brother ends up hurting them big time. Eventually, everything turns up fine, and they start a company utilizing their talents for gathering info and creating ideas.

Well, I have had bullies that were much younger than I was, much older than I am, much dumber, a bit smarter, poorer and richer.

I WILL say that adults, at least in MY area, tend to be less physical, REAL poor people tend to be less personal, and richer people that got there HONESTLY tend to be more decent. Outside of that though, there is NO demographic for bullies.

Hard to answer because it be like asking when grown ups are jerks, are they ret*d too?


If all bullies had MR then half of the world would have it There are lot of bullies out there. Thank god I don't run into any in the real world unless I don't know about it because I'd be that clueless.

A very definite no on both counts.


Yes, yes and yes.

Believe me, there are plenty of successful businesspeople, doctors, lawyers, politicians and members of every other profession who are bullies.

If you think all mature, organized, successful, intelligent people are nice, soon you're going to be a victim of one who isn't.